Is there anything wrong with wanting to see my wife with another guy?

Question

I've been having this ongoing fantasy about my wife being with another man. Sometimes I feel that I can't satisfy her completely because of my "size", if you know what I mean. I am not very well endowed is a better way to put it. Should I tell her about this fantasy, and is there anything wrong with me wanting her to be pleasured by a stud?

Answer 1

its funny how easy people can except the idea of a man wanting to see his girl with another girl, but yet think of it as sick if you want to see her with another man.i guess there is nothing wrong with having a fantasy, and if you have an open door of communication with your wife then sure tell her. now if she is willing to give you this fantasy you have to make sure that your mature enough as a person and as a husband to except it after it has been done. not turn this into something she did wrong. if she were to do this then you have to remember she did it for you.i read that someone said there would be alot of takers, well don't be so sure of that.you may have to get on line and go to a site for this type of thing. well have fun. if anything else you have your fantasy. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!

Answer 2

That is seriously between you and your wife on the whole "is it wrong" thing. I personally dont see a problem with you wanting your wife to be satisfied buy another man.. or the implications that you cant because of your size.
But that is a really touchy subject and difficult to bring up if that is something that she would never think or want to do by herself.
Too many factors and feelings go into a commited relationship for most people to share or swap partners.
I would bring this up to her and see how she reacts.. if it is something she is maybe up to trying then sit and think about it again.. because once you start and the deed is done there is no take backs. If you are insecure at all about the idea or anything.. dont do it.

Answer 3

There is not necessarily anything wrong with the fantasy. If you have a very strong relationship you can tell her about your desires. She may not have a problem with your "size" at all. So you may be able to use this in dirty talk or foreplay as a prelude to sex. However, beware if she is interested. Sometimes, you only have cherry pie then you get a taste of apple and that can open a can of worms you may not be prepared for. So take heed if things aren't the way you wanted them. And then your marriage may never be the same.

Answer 4

If she is happy with what you are giving her then do not even mention it to her , just fantasize when you are with her that it is somebody else better endowed who is with her. The danger in trying to make your fantasy real is that it is impossible to predict how it is going to go and your marriage end up in the rocks. She might not want to go back once she takes a walk in the wild side or once it come to pass you might not like it when you see another guy , in front of you , doing thins to her that you never even considered and she liking it. If after all consideration you still want to take that step then start mentioning the idea to her ,not directly but like mentioning to her that you heard this story about somebody who did the same thing that you want to do and see how she reacts , try making love after telling her such stories and you will get a good feeling on how her mind is processing this information. Good luck , life is full of risk anyway.

Answer 5

There isn't anything wrong with a fantasy. If she is willing then act out your fantasy. Just make sure its safe of STDs and risk of pregnancy. You never know but she might be into it, she may not, but you'll never know unless you bring it up. Just start the conversation with "I have this fantasy...." So she understands you want to see it because you would enjoy it there is no other motive. Make sure this isn't going to take her appeal from you. After you see this will she still turn you on? I accually know a couple that does that when they can. So I don't think there is anything wrong with that. If I was her I would considering doing it, though I would want to talk about it thoughly first. Good Luck and remember she married you because she loves you she isn't going to stop loving you because you brought up a fantasy!!

Answer 6

Not anything but everything about it is wrong. You don't understand the sanctity of marriage. Animals like to stay with a stud not wives. You need to learn how to satisfy her with what you have. Study some good book on sex and marriage. Your self esteem is low which needs to be improved.

Many women have replied in other questions that size does not matter to them.

Answer 7

If you're only lovers,I don't have any say....but to think that you have such kind of fantasy to want your WIFE to be pleasured by another guy,then you're crazy man.How could you?It's You who feel uneasy of nt being able to satisfy your wife!Does your wife ever complain of that??If she doesn't,then you should take the initiative to tell her how you feel all this while.Maybe she has her way of making "it" more exciting,who knows.Being married is nt all about sex...its about commitment too.So do give it a try.gd luck

Answer 8

You want some other guy to do for her what you can't do??? Suppose she really starts liking this other guy, and you are out in the cold..and she would rather be with him instead of you? Would you be able to deal with that? Don't open a can of worms, instead think of ways to "pleasure" her yourself...intercourse isn't the only way to satisfy a woman.

Answer 9

THERE IS EVERYTHING WRONG WITH IT!


wow,

You should've learned by now that there are many ways to compensate for not being a John Holmes, ya know. Its not the size of the ship, its the motion of the ocean like stuff. You are willing to place your wife and yourself into adultery...all for a time of pleasue, selfish pleasure. You might be having some gay tendencies.....is this "really" for your WIFE....or is it more so about you wanting to see another man?> This is too ODD for my own comprehension.....get a divorce? IDK>>>>>>>>>

Answer 10

If this is a legitimate question and not just some one trying to spam the site, check into your local swingers group. There is at least one in every city over 1000 people. They should have an orientation session - if they don't keep looking. Get together with them and ask questions. They will answer your questions - they have heard them all - and you will have a better idea of what you really want. Maybe it is something you want, maybe your wife will go for it, maybe she won't. But you are in a safe environment for the process of finding out. Good luck.