Men please explain this? what do you mean???

Question

I had a conversation with a male firend about relationships. He mentioned that girls who constantly have men/boyfriends walking in and out of thier lives will never find true love.They are going to be unhappy, cause they will never tully fall in love with someone. Now, I just stumble on a video where a guys says exactly the same thing. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2gi3-T_kOY I was shocked. I always thought that these type of girls always had the upper hand but apperently not. Why do men project one image( as they prefer women that easy and with many men) and then claim another( they dont like women who have been with many men)? Why is it women like the one I mentioned above end up unhappy? Please explain?

Answer 1

Dont confuse between two different things. Women who can walk in and out of men's lives are not preferred to be wives. A wife has to be committed to an exclusive relationship with her husband. A man cannot find true love from a woman who can flirt with many men.

The animal instinct in men is aroused by very attractive women but not their emotions of love.

Dont you remember that Marilyn Monroe committed suicide? She was everybody's heart throb in her hey day.

Answer 2

It is called the "Madona/Whore Complex" ( this is not a referrance to the famous singer, but to the more famous mother Mary). I would say probably 99% of men subscribe to it. The other 1% are comatose.

You date a sexy girl. But you marry a chaste, perfect, clean woman like your mom. A virgin (this is the extreme version).

The ideal is that you find both in one woman.

However, this is mostly an impossible dream.

Because women, just like men, have issues.

A lot of women are turned on by dangerious, adventurous men. Bikers, criminals, crazies.

But they want to marry a good provider. A yuppy-type guy who goes to work, earns good money and takes kids to baseball games. A guy that doesn't cheat.

Can you see how confusing it can get?

The best policy is to have fun, try not to consciously hurt anyone else. Be honest about your motives. Don't manipulate.

And hopefully you will attract a healthy, honest, fun loving man into your orbit. You can consciously role play the very sexy girl and the chaste, virginal madonna by turns. He can get a motorcycle but make sure he takes care of the house payments and the insurance.

Then you can ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.

Don't worry about what people that you dumped judging you. Just be honest if you are not ready to commit from the begiinning. That way they don't get confused on what game they are playing.

Answer 3

I think this is because of complex handi-work of God. God has made so to carry on the flow of life. Contrary to what the present day media and other glitz of the world has created out of women, and has dragged women into, women are more sedate, calm and contended than men who always want to run behind women. But on the other hand men are more emotionally dependent on women than women on man. So whatever a man frolicks around, in the heart of hearts he wants find in a woman, who naturally would be his wife or a longtime relation, a very reliable friend and a motherly figure, just as he was dependent on his mother in his childhood and adolescent. A man wants a strong and reliable relationship as well as as a motherly attention from a wife. So, he can not really tie his fate with an easy going woman. And that is to be understood by all women.

Answer 4

Other then being easier to bed down; women who go out of their way to get guys prove one thing: If the previous ten guys couldn't make her happy, chances are you can't either.

Over time these are the women who think they've been successful with men, think they know a lot more about men, and in general, if they knew anything about men at all other then being demanding towards them (selfish), these type of women are the ones who never realize they're giving all other women a bad name.

The sad thing is most other women look to them for advice. Not a good thing to do.

Why do they end up unhappy? Because they aren't happy with themselves and instead of realizing it, they blame all their troubles on the men they couldn't hang onto.

Answer 5

It is a slut/Madonna complex. They want an easy woman, for a few hours or days, but they ain't never gonna take her home to meet mama. If you can be the perfect woman in public and a slut in bed then you have it made. The woman who exudes sex out of every pore can have her pick of anything male walking down the street. It is a really weird feeling being around some one like that. But in the end it will never work out even in the short term.

Answer 6

Well a sexy sleazy looking girl is an instant turn on. But a man wants to marry a nice girl that hasn't been around so much. The best wife is a nice girl who can role play the nuaghty girl in the bedroom.

Answer 7

Remember, men have two heads - and two brains.

The first head prefers instant gratification. It likes the "slut" because she will give it what it wants. Therefore, to it, that type of woman needs to stay around for purely that reason.

The second head usually likes a long-term relationship. It is working with the heart while also trying to please the first head. It likes a woman that is also looking for a commitment. It does not usually like the "slut" because every woman that is one is one more woman that is not looking for a commitment.

So you see, we men are in a constant struggle between our two heads and that's why.

Answer 8

In my opinion,, A woman who has alot of men in and out of their life has a better oportunity to find just who she is looking for. She gets to know many personalities and in the end can choose the best 1 for her. As for the kind of woman a man likes it boils down to this. A man likes a "loose" woman but only for his play toy and to satisfy his barbaric instincts. But what every man really wants is a nice woman he can feel safe with and create a good long term life with, as long as he feels he can be commited. I hope this helps.paws 45 m vt

Answer 9

I think "Morris" hit the nail on the head! Sexy is an instant "turn on". but this also attracts distrust. Stable and sweet, proper and virtuous (not too virtuous...lol) is what we settle for. I guess what I am saying is do you what to be Mrs. Right or Misses Right now?

Answer 10

If you want to base a relationship on sex, then it really doesn't matter. But a relationship is based on more than just sex. Try things like trust, honesty, love, compassion, will that person be a good mother/father, and how do they treat you? If its just sex, pick anyone, but if you want it to last, look deeper.