she is only 17,she wants to have a baby all of her friends are having them, I am not ready to raise another child....she says she will be responcible....but going out with 4 men in one month doesn't sound responcible to me....she has been 2 months with out period now and we are going to do the test on xmas day....please help!
2006-12-22 23:51:04 · 9 answers · asked by jittarbug 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's really amazing when one gets the idea that it would be fun to have a child at that age it spreads like wild fire. I really feel for you. Unfortunately it does sound like she's already pregnant. The tough part for you is that you will have to stand tough on this issue. You're going to have to force her to be responsible. Make her get up for every feeding, ever whimper, every cry and so on. It sounds cold but she has to understand what this responsibility is ... and that it's a life time of care, worry and love.
If by chance she isn't, get her involved with a women's group or a group that deals with teen pregnancy ... it just might open her eyes if she can hear this from someone other than you. Mothers have to say somethings and hearing it from strangers may just trigger some second thoughts.
Bless you dear and Good luck.
2006-12-23 00:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I became pregnant with my first at 17. Not all 17 year olds are irresponsible and incapable of raising a baby without making their parents raise the child for them. My first pregnancy was planned - with the man I knew I would marry. I married him after I was 18 and our son was 4 months old. We're still together and expecting baby #3.
It sounds as if your daughter is pregnant. And unlike my situation she does seem quite irresponsible - going out with that many men in such a short time. Sounds to me like she was terribly desperate to get pregnant and now that she probably is - there will be extra battles. Finding out paternity, most likely child support, and then the battle you'll have with her to have her stop running around and actually raise her child. Your daughter is also probably thinking that the man that is the baby's father (whether she knows or not - eventually it should be found out) will step up and help her raise the baby - more then financially. She's got a huge reality check coming her way.
Why wait to do a test on Christmas day? Go to the store and buy her one now!
2006-12-23 05:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by lilly_rose_starphase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is usually right on time with her menstrual cycles it sounds like she is already pregnant. What is the reason for waiting til Christmas? It sounds like you are upset if she was to have a baby but, on the other hand your waiting for Christmas as if it were to be a great Christmas present or something to that affect.She said that she is going to be responsible but, having unprotected sex and dating 4 guys in one month doesn't sound responsible to me at all. Now, if she dated 4 guys this past month then, how many guys did she date 2 months ago and how many prospects does she have as the potential father? You need to ask her that and also make sure that she doesn't have any STD's because if she is dating a lot of men and is pregnant then apparently she doesn't use any type of birth control which means she isn't protecting herself against any STD's . I am not trying to come off rude because that is not my intention. I am just being honest because you as a mom cannot see it the way it is and I am sure if I were in your shoes I wouldn't either. Good luck to you both.
2006-12-23 00:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so the litlle girl wants to have a baby? she says she will be responsible? she has been going out with 4 men? 2 months without period??
well defiently, she is pregnant but better do the test to be sure, but personaly, if i were you, i wouldnt allow her, man! she's only 17!!! what kind of mom/dad are you!! sorry for insulting but, in that case, there is no u turns, there is only one way, and its straight ahead! you betterface the truth! even though it's hard...
good luck!!!
2006-12-22 23:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by silent_midn8t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 22:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start praying that she is not pregnant and then slap the idea of having a baby at 17 out of her head.
2006-12-23 00:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady you are crazy if you do agree with this.she has her whole life on having a baby.you would be raising it along with the welfare system.which isnt fair to other people.lock her in her room.dont let her out.go on buy her a pregnancy test.and if she is.dont you raise it.she needs to be responsible....
2006-12-23 00:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_4_dale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only Maury can tell us who the real daddy will be. Good job raising her.
2006-12-23 01:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're too late.
She sounds like a very silly little girl.
Sorry =(
2006-12-22 23:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋