what would you do?

Question

if your husband/wife cheated on you

Answer 1

Its not easy to forgive but some people can, at the end of the days its down to the couple in question

Answer 2

How much do you love your wife, has she had any reason to look else where, for instance, have you been too busy for her, not giving her attention, do you want to give her a second chance.
These are some of the questions you need to ask yourself.

If you give your wife and want to give her a second chance then you need to have a good talk to her and let her know this is the only one she`s getting ... then forget about her affair or it will eat away at you and your marriage will not work
If you`re too busy to pay any attention to her then i`m not surprised that she has looked for other company.

I have left my husband of 0ver 30 years partly through neglect.
I wish you luck.

Answer 3

That depends on how strong your love is for the person who cheated on you. There are many things to take into consideration as to why this person cheated. Once you have compiled a list of the reasons why and if you failed to give the person whom your suppose to love the affection and attention he or she dseserves. Then you need to regroup and try to understand why.
It also depends on if this is the first time or this person does it all the time.
I would have to make sure it was not my fault and if it was nothing for be to take blame for then I would leave the person and try to find true happiness. If I caused this to happen, then I would talk it out with that person and make the relationship work.

Answer 4

I found out my wife had a boyfriend and I ended the marriage. Best thing she ever did for me. She became very unhappy and I found the love of my life and have been happily married 10 years the second time around. good luck. Look to the future not the past.

Answer 5

Once is forgivable twice is not (and that goes for most things). Also remeber that twice is setting a pattern. Is the marriage a good one apart from the cheating? - if so forgive but do not forget. Make it clear that if it happens again their bags will be packed with everything they posses and will be sent to their parent or best friend AND DO IT.

Answer 6

Everyone handles this in a different way,but it normal to be shocked, angry, and hurt beond belief,if ur still young enough to make a new life some think thats the way, but if uve been married or together for a long time and children are involved then its not so easy, u have to try and forgive.

Answer 7

I can't tell you what I'd do. I'd rather not think about it. I think it would depend on the situation and how I found out as well as a great many other things that I do not have experiences with. I can tell you that I would feel hurt and betrayed and my trust in him and probably humanity in turn would fall to a level of desperation and anger. These things lead to actions we'd rather forget, but shouldn't ignore.

Answer 8

Cry, and shout a lot. But I wouldn't leave him or kick him out - we've been together too long, divorce is expensive and I do love him. But I'd stop doing stuff for him that I do now (ironing, cooking) and write more poetry instead. He says he can't afford to divorce me, and he's right - if he left I would take him to the cleaners.

Answer 9

My first husband cheated on me and I could not forgive him. We went separate ways and I have never looked back. I remarried and my ex is still on his own 14 years later serves him right.

Answer 10

Give him to her on a plate - I did just that & he left, only to find she was some sort of psycho who pushed him down the stairs & threw things at him.

If my present partner did it I would be devastated but would try to find out why & see if what caused it could be rectified.