I have known this guy for a long time, and have always been attracted to him but never told him because I wasn't sure if he felt the same and didn't want to spoil a good friendship. However recently we have ended up in bed together a few times and although I do have feelings for him I just don't get the sexual chemistry I think I should, it's not because he isn't good in bed, he is good but I'm not sure if it's because I want more than just sex or because I'm confusing a close friendship for love? If anyone has had similar experiences please share.
2006-12-22 23:16:59 · 13 answers · asked by Buffy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whats more important to you sex or a relationship? you already know this answer what worked for someone else may not and probably will not work for you just give it some serious thought and it will come to you
2006-12-22 23:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by bonestra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friendship or lovers is always a bit of confusing
or u are friends friends or lovers . i once had an experience like this . my best friend told me after years that he is in love with me since long . i really tried to see it the same way , nothing would be better but i couldnt . the friendship ended of course . i still think of him but we have contact .
u have to do a lot of thinking ! all the best and have a nice xmas
2006-12-23 07:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing at the mo. Been friends with this guy for years. and lately we always end up sleeping together. i dont think either of us wants to be boyfriend or girlfriend, im begining to think that we are relying on eachother too much. We are both comfortable together and happy in eachothers company but deep down we know we are not what eachother really wants.
Your going to have to be honest with yourself and find out if you have feelings for him or is he just your safe place.
Good luck
2006-12-23 08:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it--i mean go for the "lover" state. It has been for a long time that you have this special feeling for that person, so go tell him. Secondly, you should really consider telling that to him, because within a split second, a ton of things could happen.
2006-12-23 07:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by cicada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
snap - I am same i have being seeing this bloke and he is amazing in bed but apart of me is like u all confused I dont want to be just a F**k buddy and have just told him so today look like he cant offer me anything else so i have opted out hard to do though cos i do really like him but i do deserve better and i will get over this and i will meet someon that right for me
2006-12-23 12:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea! Exactly the same! We got married on October the 7th, I can honestly say it's the best choice I have ever made
2006-12-23 07:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by king_sigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, you only live once and if you didn't have feelings for each other why did you end up in bed?
2006-12-23 07:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you expected more time and maybe more romance before intimacy and the intrigue was rudely interrupted by sex.
2006-12-23 07:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had almost the same experience
but i think that love is sth else that sex
so try to find well in urself what u want from him then u'll find ur answer in ur hands
good luck my dear :)
2006-12-23 07:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by nice girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him dont let it go... tell him what ur feeling before its too late... is it a friend if its end in bed? well... its more that just a friend...
2006-12-23 07:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by theresia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋