I don't believe in marriage, myself. I think that if two people are happy with where they're at, and don't need a piece of paper to prove that, (because a divorce costs plenty) then there's no wrong in staying together, as a couple, without the hassles of weddings (costly) and legal documents.
I feel that in my own personal life, I'm happy where I'm at, and I've had some family members bug me about getting married, but these are people who are either not married, themselves, or they're divorced!! I don't get it. I don't want to get it, and I refuse to get married, based on what other people WANT me to do! If they say it's in the best interest of our children, then I would have to say that our kids are happy (they have their father's last name), and I don't have any plans, to be married, and neither does my partner. He feels the same, so it's mutual. We're not religious fanatics, either, so that part doesn't exist....
2006-12-22 21:50:37 · 26 answers · asked by argamedius 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I beleive in marriage, but then I beleive in Santa and the Easter bunny too!
2006-12-22 23:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to the question is, do you want to have children. If there will be no children then it is always best to never get married. If you want children, being married or shacking up is irrelevant. The same court costs, drama, mind games and difficulty will arise in any relationship whether there is marriage or not. Marriage is not for our society. Children do not deserve to be born into a home that will be broken. My answer is not to get married or have children. If you are trying to justify your desire to have children out of wedlock then the Pandora's box will be opened the same as if you were married. No one goes to court to fight over getting a divorce, especially in our no-fault divorce court states. And if a person goes to court over who gets the couch and microwave, then it is usually done within one hour without the need for attorney's. Most trials and costs in court are associated with custody battles. That is why most people litigate in family court. Marriage does not bring the headaches, people do, and a "person" is who you will be living with, married or unmarried. Issues with the children will spark the worst battles between you and thier father, and the children will be the innocent ones to suffer due to a broken relationship. It's not the marriage, it's people in todays society. Don't ever get married, don't ever have children. Be happy being yourself, just date and have fun in life. Yes, you will be lonely, but having peace in your life is the greater of the two.
2006-12-23 06:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by bruce041 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think marriage is soley a religious thing. I think it is a ceremony of commitment. Christians, pagans, Buddists and Muslems all do it in some form.
I was recently married in a civil ceremony even though I am religious because I wanted it to be about us and not everyone else. I wanted to marry because I wanted that mutual commitment. Does it mean that we will be together for the rest of our lives? Well having divorced parents I am not that niave. But I do have the assurance that we intend to be together for the rest of our lives. Even if you don't marry and split you are still going to have go though all the same crap, especially if you have children.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I do believe in marriage but I don't think marriage is a big white dress and a wedding cake. It is a commitment. Even if it is one you just make to each other. If you are going to have children it would probably at least be nice to know that he is planning to stay with you for the rest of his life even if it doesn't pan out in the end.
2006-12-23 06:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know most people here will put down marriage because they've let this world turn them emotionally cold and bitter, and against any real form of true love, and I'll probably get thumbs down to, but here me out:
I don't "believe". I KNOW I want someone I love and care for, for life, and get the same back in return. I like closness, and a strong and meaningful connection. I like meaningful-deep connection with another person that I find attractive both inside and out, and I won't get that being by myself. And I won't get that being with someone for a few months or a few years. Those relationships mean very little to me. Just quick experiences that don't last or grow. Thats boring to me.
So call it marriage or what ever, but it's not about a piece of paper to me. It's about this feeling I desire. It's the feeling thats what I like and desire. And I have it.
2006-12-23 06:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is no longer a religious institution other than love between two people which does not require the big government supervision. Marriage is a business deal and from what I can tell it is not a profitable one because of the losses which failure will incur versus the profits gained.
I would put my money into real estate and leave marriage to the high risk low income investors.
2006-12-23 06:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dutch V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever works for both of you is good.
Legally and morally the main difference of marriage is that the commitment is public, so you feel more compelled to stay together. It also is easier to explain to some people. I find it interesting that the first thing you say about marriage is its connection to divorce. That's the wrong attitude altogether, because its not a matter of convenience. If people get married, it is because they intend to be together til they die.
2006-12-23 06:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each believes what they want right or wrong! I would urge you very strongly never ever get married! Your not good enough for it! And that's the case with many of them out there! I'm happy you realize that, to bad so many others don't! That's truly a positive for you!
People who know the true meaning of true love, wants marriage! Those who knows true love their marriage last a life time and they love every second of it!
I thank you truthfully for not making a mockery out of marriage as so many others have!
2006-12-23 05:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When [ if ever ] the time comes when it is impotant to proof that you are a parent or have wife or husband when at a emergency room or social security office. Or perhaps may want to declare depndents on your tax returns. Might even consider the respect of your parents or family members especially your kids.
2006-12-23 05:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey:
Well I do believe and disbelief coz before marriage all is well and after that fights n romance ceases.
For the sake of financial security then marriage is ok.
luv sanam
2006-12-23 06:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fine, Gud thinking, I feel you should not get married, believe me.. You are very right... what is in marriage? about having sex.. you can stay like dogs and cats, anytime with anyone!!
Nice thinking na..
So what if you get pregnant, you will kill that child (abort), nice na.. you will enjoy, have pleasure nd that poor baby who is helpless will be killed? and if you give birth, gud idea what will that child be called a BASTARD!!
Look, marriage is not joke.. it is understanding, love and giving..about divorce between ur members, they dont know sacrifice,, dont have ego, bow in front of each other and see your married life will be the best among all.. Think about it!! you will not suffer, but your family and children's will..
2006-12-23 05:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Richa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree 100% with U. If two pple love each other they will look ways out to live together, if they stop loving each other they would hate the home, where the unwanted other is waiting with unwanted desires.
2006-12-23 05:57:35 · answer #11 · answered by Rani T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋