Please help. I was best friends with Lisa and she introduced me to Rebecca. Rebecca and me got on really really well and Lisa started going off the rails a bit and although we still got on with her and met up, me and Rebecca were best friends. This was all about 6 months ago. Then in he last week, they have both become really really pally again and talking about me behind my back and all the things i trusted Rebecca with she has told Lisa and its really hurt me.
I only have these two best friends and now it seems like they dont want to know me anymore and its christmas and I don't have anybody to talk to and its awful.
I know Rebecca doesnt like Lisa that much because Lisa bullied her out of school and i think she is just a short-term fix.
I am not in college so i cant meet people hat way. And also i'm slkeping with somebody who i shouldnt be sleeping with and they both know as i trusted them and now i think they may blow my cover.
i'm really upset and lonely, what do i do?
2006-12-22 21:34:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry man looks like your in a not right now................maybe you should go visit family.....it always works for me when im sad and lonely....
2006-12-22 21:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I am going to tell you is going to save you YEARS of frustration on the what do I do scale when it comes to friends....you ready???
Ok, Friendships ebb and flow. That's it, that's the secret. In every group, EVERY SINGLE GROUP, you will be a part of in your life, someone will always be coming in and someone will always be going out. In fact, sometimes the entire group will disband. It's the way life works. People change, their interests change, their rates of growth (emotional, intellectual etc) are different and the group or person no longer provides what they nee at that time. If you are very lucky, and I do mean VERY lucky, you will find one person that is part of your group for your whole life, someone that is not married or related to you.
Just remember that this is the way this friendship is going right now, it is nothing you are doing wrong...at least unless you have done something wrong, you don't say so if you did...and it may go back to the way it was, it may not. One of you might drift out of the picture completly and that is ok too.
Sorry, but I do HTH.
2006-12-22 21:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, depending on you guys age if it is under the age of 25, that type of problem usually happens. your best bet is to think of was there a time that you may have done any back biting with either of the two friends and if so you may find the beginning of your problem. next I would advise you to accept any responsibility if you have any and maybe take one or both of your girls out or call them and make them aware of your feelings and make them aware that you understand that maybe you have some fault in the way the friendship has turned out. you may or may not be able to turn their hearts but if at all you have turned yours and realized that generally people do not turn on really good friends for nothing -generally. I'm not saying that anything is your fault, (although you did admit to sleeping with someone that you feel you shouldn't which does show that you are willing to live with making bad judgements) i'm just saying that real love does not first blame but tries it's best to find within itself the first step to peace. Really it's kind of hard to have two friends that close and expect the two to never hook up with notes about you. It is my impression that you should have seen this coming. next time try to be a really good person by making choices that will not come back to bite you in the *** because believe me i know it's possible to have someone you thought was your friend turn on you but you somewhat exposed your character with the sex story. try working on being a good friend and odds are your personal life and friendships will improve
2006-12-22 21:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, never trust anyone with your utmost secrets. Lisa sounds like a dirty, bullying be-otch and Rebecca is weak and being intimidated. You learned a valuable lesson, now get two new b/f's.
2006-12-22 21:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me, if this is true, that this is a typical type of behaviour wtih girls in their teens or however old you are. Three girls, two against one, three can never seem to get on for long.
Basically, it's your turn to be on the outter. Get used to it, becuase this is how it'll be until you are once again included and possibly one of them will then be ousted.
For now, I wouldn't let it take up time in your head. It's childish and it will blow over.
If you should'n't be sleeping with someone and you are, why do it then?
2006-12-22 21:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! Rember once you tell one person your secrets ,they are not secrets any more.Be yourself, Kill both of them with kindness and act as if nothin has happened . Sounds like it may be a little bit of your fault also. Stop all gossip partically on your part. If either or both are your true friends, they will be back and if they don't, they were not your friends to begin with.Put it behind you. " Time heals most emotional wounds".
2006-12-22 22:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by EL-BRAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, it relatively is basically too random I went interior the direction of an analogous element. enable me supply you the ideal suggestion i delivers forget approximately approximately HER! i'm sixteen i've got time-honored my appropriate chum for 9 yrs, and we've been bff's for like 8. What your chum is doing to you my bf did that to me like 3 yrs in the past, and that i replaced into consistently the only to only forget approximately and forgive so because it relatively is the only reason we made it this far. Then it starts off escalating to the factor the place she could blow up at me and whilst i could tell her I ddidn't relish it she could get mad at me. have faith me do no longer waste it gradual like I did reason interior the tip you would be the only one harm. whilst shes treating you like that it is going to tell you which you werent even acquaintances to start with.
2016-10-05 22:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are catty at your age. Fortuneatly they are also labile and will probably have you back in their good graces shortly. Just hang in there.
2006-12-22 21:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is simple don't put all your eggs in one basket. Especially if the basket has a hole that may leak them out.
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