I've been going around with this girl for 2/3 months.
but she is quite serious for me (though i was casual)
I dont know whether i love her or not but i do care about her..
and dont want to break her heart by just saying "It's Over" !
At the same time i know it's not going to work for too long...
as i know ...
i can't marry her !
Please advie me..only genuine advice needed ...
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2006-12-22 21:16:38 · 10 answers · asked by zubi k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
carry on with what type of relationship you have with that girl.
tell her that you care about her but you can't marry her due to whatever reasons.
and ask if she want to continue good relationship between two of you.
and remember one thing whether it's friendship or love one thing is common
that is care and concern.
if she don't want to continue relationship that means her love for you is not true
because love happens and it did not want any feedback.
if she really love you than her love for you didn't have to change by any truth of life
2006-12-22 21:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by bloom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be nice to her and see where things go and if she tells you she loves you and you clearly don't love her just be honest with her and tell her you don't feel the same way about her. Treat her as a friend and nothing more but don't just cut her off for no reason. that would unnecessarily hurt her feelings and I don't think you want to do that from what you are saying. Be careful what you say to her and don't let her get any wrong ideas as to how you feel about her. Actually the best thing that can happen in your situation is for her to say she loves you because then you have an opportunity to tell her you just want to be friends. Hopfully she will understand and if she doesn't then that is her problem and not yours even though you may worry about how she is taking it which you should not do even if she is disappointed you don't love her. The worse thing you can do is to tell her something that isn't true because then you will hurt even more when the truth comes out.
2006-12-22 21:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear zubi, Honesty is the best policy. So, you should invite her for a dinner or else and discuss everything with her. Don't be rude and don't say it directly, but you can start by letting her understand that further relation that reaches for marriage is not for the best of you both at the mean time. At the same time, don't loose her friendship and let her understand that you really care for her future and that you will always back her when she's in need.
From the way she will react with you, you will notice the truth of your feelings towards her.
May Luck & GOD be with you.
2006-12-22 22:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Antareport 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you can't marry her. You should have specified that, it would have helped your question. But, anyway here goes. You should tell her exactly what you said here, you care for her really, and don't want to hurt her, however you cannot marry her, and you will be obliged to tell her way.
Something for you to consider: If you know you aren't going to be able to marry a woman, then why get involved, only date women whom you will be able to marry, so you won't continue to hurt people.
2006-12-22 21:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are nt ready for a serious relationship yet. if you care about her than u love her..even if its just a little dnt say its over..explain ur self..duh.give the relationship a try. if u break up with her and ur srry and regret that u did..than u love her..if nt than u dnt..dnt break up with her..how do u kno u cant marry her?? just b/c its been 2-3 months?? WAIT!!! it takes time, if u care about her u love her
2006-12-22 21:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive got a Story that will benefit your question:
ONE DAY,THERE WAS A BOY WHO DIDN'T LIKE A GIRL BUT HE DIDN'T KNOW THE GIRL LOVED HIM. TIME PASSED WHEN THEY WERE WALKING IN THE PARK, THE BOY ADMITTED THAT HE DIDN'T LIKE THE GIRL. SO THE GIRL'S HEART BROKE
AND SHE RAN BACK HOME AND COMMITED SUICIDE.
Don't you think you have the same story?
2006-12-22 21:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Miksha-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't marry her than your probably not in love with her.
i suggest you get to know her a little more before you get serous.
GOOD LUCK in your relationship.
2006-12-22 21:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so when r u planning 2 get married if u keep dumping girls think before u say her ...............if u loose her once may be later u realize she was ur perfect match
2006-12-22 21:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pork her, lls
2006-12-22 21:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by charles d 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
marry her!!!!!!
2006-12-22 21:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋