I have been in a relationship with a. what I thought of as a special relationship since April. We spend a lot of time together and enjoy doing the same things in life. I have been very generous in my gifts to her for Christmas and did not even get a Christmas card in return. Should I tell her to get lost?
2006-12-22 21:08:31 · 12 answers · asked by sweneysteve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
christmas isn't over yet. maybe there is a surprise for you. if there isn't, and you've spent a lot of money on her this year, and have given her something nice for christmas, then dump her. she is an unappreciative user, and it will only get worse.
2006-12-22 21:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by domangelo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what her religious beliefs are, but maybe she doesn't believe in Christmas or giving gifts for Christmas. I have a friend that is completely against giving gifts on national holidays b/c she thinks it is lame. Maybe you should have discussed Christmas together before purchasing anything. If you have been exclusive since April, I would think a Christmas conversation would be okay. My boyfriend and I always make a price limit. The lower the budget the more special the presents b/c they get really creative. I don't think you should allow Christmas presents to dictate the success rate of your relationship unless you are just extremely shallow and materialistic. I think you should have a discussion with her to voice your concerns, but make sure you make it about relationship stability and not Christmas presents or you will appear childish.
2006-12-22 21:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a person does for the holiday is called the spirit---maybe she has no spirit or maybe she doesn't honor christmas---it's only a day and you'll have to accept what happened. Don't overdo it and expect anything--only going to feel disappointed and hurt. If this truly displeases you, move on. but be a gentleman--explain that you are not a match when it comes to certain ideas and the way you live your life. The holidays are best spent happily as a couple--sharing and giving gifts that truly express your feelings---even just a card with a note . Sorry about the way it turned out but the cards are not the only issue---admit it and get going. Merry Christmas
2006-12-22 21:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you didn't get a card from her you are ready to dump her? Is materialism your criteria for a good relationship? Did you get her nice gifts expecting nice ones in return and feel if she doesn't reciprocate she is not worth your time? If so you have a shallow view of relationships and people. To say she is greedy would be a mistake. Don't assume anything at present. There may be a reason she didn't get you a card. She may think it wasn't necessary since she sees you so much. I have done this myself at times and the lady never thought anything about it and never called me on it. It did not damage our relationship at all. Don't tell her to get lost instead give her the benefit of the doubt and continue your relationship for now. See what she does when your birthday rolls around. that should tell you something.
2006-12-22 21:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you reading more into this relationship than her. If at least a token gift does not magically apear before December 25th ( or if she is going out of town when she gets back) than this women is playing in a different field.
Bring it up with her and ask if she has any cultural , social or religious aversion to gift giving . If there is no legit reason than I would have the heavier discussion on where your relationship is going ......you may have to return her ! But you'll be able to shower yourself with generous gifts now .
2006-12-22 22:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how hurt you feel, if she has half a brain she would see that Christmas means something to you. Maybe you still will get a card. I always spent a lot on my daughter in law and not once did she ever pick up a card for me, it just hurts your feelings. they dont think or appreciate, I know my daughter in law loves me, and so i can never figure this one out, she does buy for her family tho.
2006-12-22 21:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she bought a card for someone else.....and what kind of a dirt bags says get lost just for a stupid christmas card...what if shes bought somet better than a card..wait and see....theres 2 shopping days left yet and im sure ur turn will come....and is a card worth more than a relationship since april....you fool...
2006-12-22 21:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by whats up yaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very close friend that I get gifts for and I notice she doesnt do the same for me in the way of boxed goodies...but she is always there to talk to when no one else is. What a gift!! ;)
2006-12-22 21:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not Christmas yet, so its no big deal. Sit back relax and enjoy the season
2006-12-22 21:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by mazza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't know her very well or you need to give her some money or ask her if she needs any.
2006-12-22 22:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋