I am totally confused. I cannot balance my family problems and my studies together. Though I have taken a year gap in my studies. I cannot focus on two things at a time. What should I do ? Please help me out.
Thanks in advance.
2006-12-22 21:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by ANU G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The human brain is only capable of ONE thought at a time. You cannot occupy one space with two (or three or four...) different things. That's what make people "crazy". I don't know what your problems are, but there's only so much you can do about anything. Do what you can to resolve any 'crap' in you life, (we all have some), and get to studying....don't put off your education!
2006-12-22 21:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
List the issues that are bothering you
Catagorize them into two parts:I can control or make better/Cannot control whatsoever
Focus on the "I Can Control" list: Prioritize them(1 being of most consequential or time critical).Identify the what qualifies the matter as a problem.
Identify possible solutions
Implement actions (making ph calls to people, appointments,follow up)towards completing the solution.
Everyday follow up on your dilemmas, but not enough to distract you from your studies.You are in total control of your studies until you decide to give more control somewhere else.This is how you maintain a balance.
"if your problem has a solution,then why worry about it?If it doesn't have a solution, then why worry about it?"
for example,
1.Traffic ticket (195.00)=must get paid NLT friday or turns into a warrant resutling in more $$,out of work,unpaid bills
Problem:no Money ...........solution:go to court,pay with c/c,or borrow $, do all
Actions:called peter said he would could only lend me 30. Mother will western union 40 tonight. Called EPD-traffic and charged the fine via phone. I will use the borrowed money to pay some towards my c/c to keep my monthly payment down.
2006-12-23 05:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your task! take a pen and paper. Draw a position how you wish to be 5 years from now on. Then think about what steps you need for this. Once you are finished with this excercise, you will know what sacrifices you need to make. Accordingly either you sacrifice your family or studies. In the end always you are the successful person. After all all successful persons are not successful students / sucessful family persons. Diegest this fact. and live with ambition, not with problems
2006-12-23 05:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by auditorsudhakar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear anu g,
first of all try and priortise the issues u have in ur hand and finish them off one by one as soon as you can..if you are interrupted in the middle of some work don't panic finish it off and then come back to the work u were doing. don't worry about your family much. infact they will be the happiest person if you become something good. in free time think about the reason behind your family problems if u can do something about it then do it and if can't then leave it but throughout the process don't let ur studies off. problems are always there but should be able to find a way. just remember this "when going gets tough then tough gets going".
2006-12-23 07:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by rohit r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey anu understand what Ur going through now
i have been gone through the same situation but u know what it took me 5 yrs to understand that i have done the biggest mistake of my life by taking gab between studies i thought to take gap from studies until family problems solve n then i will be able to do my studies properly but thing just got worst i waisted my 5 yrs thinking as problem will solve i will start my studies but didn't happened so at last with all those worst problem and troubles started my studies and i with god blessings i passed the exam as well know i have decided not think to take gab n i will continue my study +trying to solve problems + doing job as well
u see anu if u will take break now it will much tuff task in future continue ur study n like me u will be sorry to for taking such an stupid decision problem comes n goes, some times it doesn't goes soon and becomes troubles though but then it goes the again an new problem arise from somewhere n we have to face it too this what is life dear dint get so involve in it u 1st try to complete Ur studies concentrate in Ur studies n try to avoid family drama as much as possible OK in futUre will be thanking Ur self for letting ur self lost in problems ocean
god bless you
2006-12-23 06:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too emotional right now. Dont let your fam problems drive you away from your studies. In life, you will always have problems at the same time. Try to separate one thing from the other. It takes time, but at the end, that's the secret of a happy life.
2006-12-23 05:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Karen Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chill dear. just try a art of iving course or badg these books i will suggest you
who will cry when u die
the monk who sold his ferrari
i know its boring to think of all this but try it dear ure mind will get peace. this is my personal experience
2006-12-23 05:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋