I had been living with my fiance for 2 eyars almost. I moved out last month and we been working on our issues. Everything is going good except one area that bothers me. He talks to alot of women on yahoo and on the phone. Most I do not have a problem with. But a few I do. One woman is not his ex but they would talk on the phone in the mornings on his way to work (at least an hour), lunch breaks, and on the way home from work. Given he does not talk to her that much now but still does several times a week. The other one is an ex and she even talks to me sometimes but only because she is trying to snoop. She has always gone out of her way to come inbetween us. She would talk **** about us to eachother visa versa. She caused him alot of grief after they broke up. So basically she is nothing but trouble. Yet he still talks to her. I asked him tochange his cell number but he won't. Am I wrong for feeling this way? What do I do?
2006-12-22 18:41:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Study this closely before marrying. I've never done anything against my own wife or marriage, but I know exactly what this is all about and it warrants a bit of fact gathering. My suggestion? Let him know you are very concerned about this and that you are uncomfortable about going through with any marriage as long as his conduct continues. Let him know that you are ready to forgive him for whatever communication he has had to this point, but not for future acts once an agreement is reached. If he actually slept with someone, that forgiveness is up to you! Good luck!
2006-12-22 18:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by TCSO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is really not something you may do. And any undesirable strikes you're making would convey them closer mutually. if you're effective in his love for you and also you're particular there is not something between them, then you truly might want to verify mutually with your fiance about the way it makes you experience and its as a lot as him to do something to make you larger comfortable. of route he cant administration her movements and he cant drop contact which includes her for the baby, yet see you later as he doesnt feed into the more desirable issues she does then sometime she'll get the point. lengthy as he basically responds at the same time as its about the baby and ignore her different circumstances, she'll quickly get the point. yet when it is going on for a lengthy time period (months), i'd commence questioning that that's something he's doing to feed or condone that habit.
2016-10-16 21:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh how I hate when that happens. It happens to us guys too, when our partner's off chatting off with some other guys. You don't really feel a sense of jealousy... just... irritation. I think it's a normal reaction to have, not wrong in any way. You can change his cell number, move out of the city and still he will be contacting the girls. Instead, sit down with him over a dinner. Chat with him to your heart's content. Tell him how you feel and what bothers you, that you feel unappreciated when he chats with some other girls, and wether there is any reasons for you to be suspicious. Then let him tell you what bothers him and listen to his explanation. Relationship is a two way street and you have to be open minded, too. Another suggestion, if he goes to chat with this ex again, approach your fiance, latch your arm to his, and lovingly pat his shoulder, or do some loving gestures- it would be vinditive, but it works, haha! Or you can try the option of calling her out for lunch, befriend her, know her intentions, so on so forth. Wish you luck with your relationship! If it's been 2 years now, I suppose it makes it worthwhile to hold on to this relationship.
2006-12-22 19:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by Aleckii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears that your relationship is over and he's looking elsewhere. If he was committed to you he wouldn't talk to other women as you say he does. Your mistake too is talking to his ex-girlfriend. You're inviting her into the relationship just as much as he is. I'd like to suggest that you go on and end it, take a some time to yourself and start dating again. He is not for you.
2006-12-22 18:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to settle down. He needs the attention from several women. One woman is not enough for him so let him go ahead and continue to spread himself around. Move on with your life.
2006-12-22 18:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all for feeling the way you feel. He is giving you reasons not to trust him. Do you think he'll stop talking to these women if you asked him to? If not, then you need to make a decision. You either accept him the way he is or move on.
You want to be someone you don't need to change at all, otherwise, it's not going to work. It's not fair to want them to change for you nor is it fair for them to want to change you. You've got to be with someone you don't need to change at all.
2006-12-22 18:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. Advise him that all these hurts you and your feelings. Let him know that all these could break-up your relationship. If all else failed, that means he's still in-love with whoever, move on with your life. Leave him would be the best option.
2006-12-22 18:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to block her calls...no if, ands or buts. He doesn't need to be talking to any girls if he is your fiance. If he is getting by with this now, what all is he going to get by with when you are married. These are issues that you need to settle before you get back together and if can't, you need to drop him and move on with your life. You deserve better.
2006-12-22 19:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to feel that way because he is your man! you should talk to him and tell him how you really feel about the hobbies that he has! tell him that it is bothering you! you should also tell that trouble maker that she is a pain in the *** and should stop communicating with the both of you because she has no bussiness with the both of you!
lastly, you are insecure because of his actions! but its not your fault you are feeling like that! if he still doesnt hear you out then something's wrong with him
2006-12-22 18:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong in feeling this way it's natural, as 4 what to do you'll just have to trust him, time will tell everything if he really love's you he will stay commited and devoted to you.
2006-12-22 18:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by vkusta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋