every year i grow stronger and more determined......my husband stays the same......i know i have freedom and control and have the right TO NOT be taken advantage of....... why should i surrender to his neglect ........he acts like he doesn't have a voice and punishes me with stubborness.......could my personality be to indepent ?.......i feel like i'm better.....
2006-12-22 18:33:03 · 6 answers · asked by non-curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Everybody is going through this stage in married life, I mean women, sooner or later we come to the idea that we are mentally stronger than men. This is true, it's just that we don't realize this until we live with a man for a while because before you really get to know them they always seem stronger than us, but after a few years (or months, depends) of living together we start to realize their weaknesses and there comes the hard time - left without a shoulder to lean on .... actually you feel that "you" are the shoulder for him to lean on. And still he wants to feel superior.
2. Now we come to the part "what to do about it". - really strongg woman never shows off, never tells man that she's stronger than him. Smart and stron woman can make men do anything she wants to and still give him feeling that this was he's decision not hers.
3. Last there comes question to mind - "then why we need them, what are man for?" - and I'm sure you know the answer - NATURE, guess this explains everything!
Good luck with species that we call men : )
P.S. after all this said above, I still think that our lives can't be full without them by out side!
2006-12-22 19:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, even with the little bit of info you provide, this is clearly a complex situation. Do you love this man? Do you want to your marriage to him to continue? Have you talked to him about these issues? The answers to these questions would really influence anything else I'd have to say....
2006-12-22 18:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sahara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be yourself. Learn to honor yourself, to love yourself, to accept yourself for the wonderful and dynamic woman that you are. Remember, your husband is also a human being doing his best. The universe presents life to us and we have to learn to accept it as it is presented. You can't change what or how life is presented, you can only control how you view it. So learn to accept yourself, and life. Can you accept your husband that way? He is doing his best, as are you. You do not have to accept anything...but you do have to honor yourself. So, are you honoring yourself by staying in this relationship? If you answer yes, then honor the relationship.
2006-12-22 18:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are boss in your house. Good to know . But keep it with confidence & with the same strenght. Never ever take any disadvantage of your position. Marriage life works only on one thing " HONESTY "
2006-12-22 18:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying you want a divorce?
2006-12-22 18:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask him . my opion?
2006-12-22 18:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋