How do you come over shyness?

Question

I can't do anything in front of my crush, talk in front of crowds, or even sing in front of a large group of family members!

Answer 1

alter ego

Answer 2

Force yourself to do something small that you would not normally do. Ask a stranger a question about a piece of their clothing. Then increase the task until you are able to go up to your crush and ask a simple question. Shyness I think is a result of not wanting to be rejected. When you realize that life is full of rejections and you have to get used to that and get passed that in order to get all the blessings that are coming to you it may become easier to open yourself up to more possibilities. If you sit in the back of the room in a small corner where nobody will notice you then you may have just lost the possiblity of a wonderful relationship. Remind yourself of that every day and remind yourself that you deserve to be out there enjoying your life and not standing back just watching everyone else go by. Don't be afraid of rejection but embrace it as a sign that the person who rejected you was not good enough to be your friend/companion and move on.

Answer 3

It's about confidence, to some extent, and just plain personality.
Also, with the singing, I find that it is a soul-baring act and I really don't care to be that completely vulnerable in a group.
Talking in front of crowds is hard for many of us, I've taken a lowered grade rather than do that!
You sound like you have a very sensitive spirit, and also have probably been wounded more than many as a result.
Treasure that sensitive spirit, guard your heart, and be gentle with yourself as you approach these areas in which you wish to stretch yourself.There's nothing wrong with you if these traits remain unchanged-it takes all kinds to make the world go round. There have to be some of us who prefer to work behind the scenes!

Answer 4

It is all matter of facing your fears. Maybe if you have someone that you can put all of your attention like a friend or something and just think about him/her during a show or encounter with some person or crowd, it would maybe help you overcome your shyness. However, know that there is nothing wrong with shyness! But if you really wish to overcome it, you should confront your fear.

Answer 5

Why not try giving yourself a mini challenge each day to do something out of your comfort zone. When I was studying teaching my class and I had a mini project where each person would have to do something that would normally be difficult to do . For some people it was to make a conversation with someone in a lift, sing karaoke or even just yell Hooray really loud at your favourite sports team when watching them play.The posibilities are endless! Good luck!

Anastasia

Answer 6

Your Crush - Find him a Christmas preseant, and put it as annonamous. Give him clues of who you are.
Talking In Crowds - Pitcher yourself in a crowd. Take some index cards, and say it. Soon, talk to one, then that same persone, and add a couple of more people. Add on.
Singing - It comes naturlley. It's a fear. Everybody has fears.

Answer 7

Being very shy myself, I came to accept my shyness as part of my personality. It was only then that I was able to start letting myself "be" and was able to draw out conversations (though they are still very hard for me!) It's a challenge, but it's something you can do if you really want to.
Try setting small goals. Let yourself blush. Get tuned into how you feel. Realize that everyone likes to be liked, so if someone sees you blush, they'll probably be more attached to you (and if they aren't, then is it really someone you want to get to know more?) You could try looking directly into people's eyes since I know if I can do that, it's alot easier to speak to them. Try small conversations and work yourself up. Like anything, the more you practice, the better you get. Just make sure you are doing it for yourself and not to make yourself a better person. We aren't defined by how sociable we are! Acceptance is key.

Answer 8

ahh, i used to be just like you, i know how it feels so trust my answer.

the best thing to do is to make new friends, freind with your opposites and trust them and make sure they do things that you would never do, i know this totally goes against being shy, but isnt that the whole point?

you need to do something totally crazy in public and get attention for it, im not telling you to strip at the mall or anything (lol) all im saying is that you need to break out of your shell by contradicting it completey

and as for your crush issue, well that will come in time, just know that you will never have a relationship with him if you cant talk to him, and use taht logic everytime you see him

think about this too...what is the worst that could happen if you did do the things you said you couldnt, you need to have more faith in yourself and realize that its ok to be an outcast.

but most importantly you need to learn to laugh..at yourself....and at things taht may not require humor on your part...making a fool of yourself is ok, as long as you know how to cover it. just get a sense of humor and have some fun, im sure this shyness as a thing that will pass

mine did, and i wish the best for you as well

go crazy and have fun!

happy holidays

fuzzy...

Answer 9

one of the best ways to overcome shyness, especially when it comes to public speaking, is to picture everyone in your underwear. or is that theirs? either way, it helps. also, look just over their heads while speaking. everyone will think you're looking at the person behind them. after you conquer this level, the rest should come rather easily.

Answer 10

You can never come over shyness but you can overcome it.
Take some Speech courses.

Answer 11

I have terrible anxiety; however, I have learnt that by shutting off your mind you can do anything.

When you are in such a situation, block out your surroundings, your thoughts and memories and just say what you have to say.