i'm so depressed... and 22 weeks pregnant?

Question

i cry all of the time and i can't stop having suicidal thoughts. i know it's very serious... i'm so ashamed of how i am feeling that i haven't told ANYONE. i'm so worried that if i'm this upset now that i will have post-partum depression and be a danger to myself or my child... I JUST WANT TO FEEL HAPPY AND NORMAL...

any suggestions?

Answer 1

Your life isn't over. Many women would kill to be able to have a child. Your schedule is off: adjust it. You are soon to be a part of the most miraculous thing of which a human is capable. I don't pity you, I envy you.

Answer 2

Don't be ashamed, it is not your fault you feel this way. Post natal depression is not false. Having a child can really mess up your hormones and your emotions. Not everything a person experiences or feels is under their control You need to go and see someone but I think you should try to go to someone who won't just give you an antidepressant and say you'll feel better cause antidepressents are really dangerous. Maybe a naturapath could help. Maybe just getting outside more could help too and looking up not down. Taking in the beauty of the world isn't a cure but it can give you a freshened perspective.

Answer 3

You know it's unhealthy for you and your unborn child to be feeling this way. Why don't you tell your doctor about it and see what she says. In all likelihood, your hormones are out of whacked and that's the reason you're depressed. However, I will not get on anti-depressants even if your doctor prescribes it.
A safer alternative would be to see a good accupuncturist. A combination of counselling and accupuncture are what helped me when I was very depressed and suicidal. I promise you will feel a world of difference.
And oh, stay away from sugar and starch.

Answer 4

I would go to the ER imediatly. Having them kind of thoughts are not good. If you don't go now at least try not to be by yourself until you seek treatment. when you do go ask the doctor about all mental and medication therapies available to you that are safe for your baby as well. The only medicine that I know for sure is safe while pregnat is zoloft so I would bring it up to your doctor, there may be others that he/she would know about also. I have I was on zoloft while I was pregnant and stayed on it throught out my babies first year while breastfeeding, just as a precaution because I was at high risk for post pardon depression. Hope I was able to help.

Answer 5

Ok, working with pregnant women for many years I have ran into women who feel this way. We have to keep a real close eye on them because this can be very serious. Not only can you endanger yourself but your baby, and how bad would that be? When we have a patient with symptoms like this we not only get them a referal to see a therapist ASAP but they also get prescribed a low dose antidepressant. Something like Zoloft or even Lexapro. Many women have taken it, and it is for the best. Yes, it is hormones running wild but for the safety of you and your child this is best. See your Ob-Gyn ASAP and let them know what is going on. DO NOT FEEL BAD!!! Many women go through this during, after and anythime in there life. It doesn't mean you are not strong, or yourself, or a bad mother to be. It just means we have more hormones to deal with. More hormones going our of wack. Estrogen, progesterone skyrocketing that can make your seratonin and epinephrine also go our of wack. It happens and we just have to recognize it and address it.

You will just be more closely monitored after you deliver, I would definetly take medication throughout your delivery and after just to be safe and slowly taper off.

I have never been pregnant but have dealt and battled with depression for 13 years on and off. It is awful, I have always been the one everyone runs to for help. But, every now and then I just break down and my body can't take it. It's just your body telling you, you need an extra little something. Oh and don't listen to those CRAZY TOM CRUISE FREAKS SAYING ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD! Technically the hormones are, but that's what needs treatment. People need to be educated before they give advice, take a Psychology class and learn about the brain and how if functions and what makes it work. Trust me, don't listen to them, feeling like this doesnt make you a weaker person.

Just talk to your doctor and they can get you help ok.

Best wishes to you and your baby!

Answer 6

So many people never ask for help and some of the results are devastating. You are seeking help and because of this you will be ok and so will your baby. It is normal to be depressed and moody when pregnant, on your period, and even postpartum (after baby born) due to hormones. But I always taught my patients on discharge (OB Nurse) that if they ever had depression so bad that they felt like they wanted to hurt their baby or self to get help immediately! Your Dr. needs to know so you can feel better. Don't feel like you are the only one that has felt this way because your not. You are special and your child is a blessing. Please seek the help. Bless You!

Answer 7

You do need psychiatric help, not because there is something wrong with you, it's your hormones going CRAZY! I've never been pregnant before but when I'm PMSing 70% of the time I'm in a bad mood and start fights with anyone in sight. So I imagine it's worse with pregnancy. I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 8

I was depressed at the beginning,mainly because the father decided not to be a part of it,but what helped me was talking to one of my friends that had an accident and could never have kids.She wanted a baby more than anything and could never have her own.After talking to her I felt really selfish and realized what a gift I was carrying.

Answer 9

See a psychiatrist. You don't have to be embarrased, they are professionals and they aren't allowed to tell anyone else. You really have to talk to someone before this is too much for you to handle. You have nothing to be ashamed of, depression affects millions of Americans.

Answer 10

"Post partum depression" is not a real condition, in my book. It's on the level of "attention deficit disorder" and a number of such newly invented PC "diseases" by leftist psychologists.

If you're unhappy, it must be for a reason. I don't know what to tell you.