some (emphasis on some) people answereing my questions think that because I post the question that it is something I would do. So let the record show I would NEVER call my child stupid but I would go off on someone who did.
2006-12-22 18:00:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
No. If you go off on them, it will not make things better. That parent might take it out on the kid when you're not there.
2006-12-22 18:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
the truth is that the vast majority of ppl that heard a mother saying that to their child in public would probably disagree with that choice of words...and probably would give the mother a dirty look, but would never utter a word...and just keep on walking by.
that is the FACTS. people usually avoid getting involved with other ppl when it comes to verbal abuse.
"it's not my place.", "it's none of my business" etc. are the usual excuses.
and yes, the parent would probably become confrontational if someone were to challenge them. being a parent is the ULTIMATE in control. and when a parent, abusive or not is challenged on their parental skills...watch out!
i have 3 kids. it's annoying when ppl stick their nose into your business yes, but they are just concerned for the child. and usually don't mean any harm. I'd rather the person be concerned for my kid than indifferent.
indifference is what MOST ppl show in a situation like that. i've seen some parents screaming at the top of their lungs at their kids, in full view of 20 ppl or more, and no one says anything.
yet...if that same adult had been screaming that way at another adult...the manager, 10 employees and 4 concerned customers would be there in a jiffy to end the conflict before someone got hurt.
like it or not, nosey or not...calling a child "stupid" is WRONG. it's verbal abuse...plain and simple, and should NEVER be tolerated. unfortunately MOST of the ppl answering they would say something, probably wouldn't in that situation. we all would like to think we would...but 8 out of 10 wouldn't do a damn thing.
me?
I have been in that situation before. i didn't jump down the women's throat...i just calmly asked her if she had a stressful day, and perhaps she needed a walk to calm down.
she took my suggestion well enough, if not just a bit annoyed (understandably), BUT the child was no longer the target for her anger.
2006-12-23 02:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't say anything unless the situation was endangering the child as a mother i spanked my child in a store one time and some busy body woman was staring at me like oh my god i looked directly at her and told her to have her own damn kids she could decided how to discipline them... my kids are very well behaved now but at the time my son was young and throwing a full out tantrum because he thought he would get away with it because mommy won't say anything in public or do anything, she might be joking and even if she wasn't unless you know her and are prepared to turn her into child protective services to see if the child is actually being abused i find its best to mind your own business or i would anyway
2006-12-23 02:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've heard people do that in public and it is very common at little league ballgames. I have said some things to people before, but haven't really lit into them. I don't think much of a parent who calls their children stupid in public or in private. That's very sad for the child.
2006-12-23 02:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
actually i would never do that to my child, but it's none of your business if someone else did and if i was a parent correcting my child and you butted in you would regret the encounter. i'm from alabama and you wouldn't last long there sticking your nose into someone elses affairs, someone would shove your words back down your throat ( i'm not advocating violence, i'm telling you like it is) yelling or spanking is NOT abuse, children need discipline, and it's up to the parents, not some stranger who doesn't know what the child may have done to provide it. corporal punishment should be brought back, i would have never screamed hit or cursed my parents, but kids do it all the time now, give me old fashioned values and discipline. teach your kids right from the beginning and the ugly confrotations need never happen.
2006-12-23 02:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It is not my place as an ordinary person just passing by. I would not like it if someone stuck their nose in my business. It would only create a scene that might be even more stressful on the child.
If I were a teacher, councelor, or doctor of some kind, the answer would be different. It is the JOB of those people to become involved.
2006-12-23 02:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not safe. People are psychos nowadays and carry guns. My parents have called me stupid before. People lose thier tempers. I don't think it's a big deal.
2006-12-23 04:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by Somechicknamednicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have kids and although I would never call them stupid i also dont like others telling me how to raise my children and no, I would not say anything to her. Did she say stop acting stupid or did she actually call the kid stupid? There is a difference.
2006-12-23 02:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Thumper 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I most likely would, when a child is belittled like that when they are young, then if they hear it enough they start to believe that they are stupid or worthless. That is actually a form of child abuse.
2006-12-23 02:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not if there was a group around, but being an old Soldier, I would do some a*s chewing when I got them out to their selves.
2006-12-23 02:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would tell them that they are unintelligent to compare themselves to a 7 year old. On average, they should be more intelligent in comparison. This leads me to believe that they have a lack of self confidence.
2006-12-23 02:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by Professor Sheed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋