Friends of The Opposite Sex?

Question

In my experience the majority of men do not talk to women unless they want an intimate relationship with them. Are there any women who have noticed or feel this? And if men are aware of this distinction in their experience ca anyone tell me why this is so? why don't men talk with women to establish plutonic relationships as they do with men?

VW thank you for your answer- I was hoping for answers from both sides of the fence!! :-) And I understand what you're saying about the behavioral habits you've picked up in dealing with women.

Answer 1

Well I see that nobody answered that for you, and my answer will most likely not what you want to hear, since I am a male! You are right though about that...for some reason men will talk to women hoping that they will score and most of the women are either single and has their own home or their pretty (whether married or not). I have worked around where women were dominate in the work place most of my life (20+ yrs). I now work in a hospital where out of 250 employees probably 200 are females. I can't tell you how a female truely feels, but I do know that the older ones pick it up from the (not so good) males and the other females will deffinately tell the other ladies about that certain male. I have had my scapes and bruises with females in the work place mostly...and I KNOW that in my earlier years working around a female dominate area...don't make one mad at you...cause you got all of them to contend with ;)...lol. I know too when talking with a female to look in her eyes and not at her breasts or crouch and to never start a sexual conversation or say a sexual comment to her, but to speak to her like a guy...with respect and dignity!!!!!!! I prefer a platonic relationship with women cause it does give me a better understanding of how to please the woman I'm with and what she would want and how she feels to a degree. Most men think they know what they want, but they really have "NO" clue. I'm not saying I know, but at least I'm trying to know how females think. I know you wanted a female perspective on your question, but I didn't see any answer to this and thought I would try.

Answer 2

Do you have pals of the two sexes? specific I do. Do you come across you have a distinctive friendship with pals of a similar intercourse than you do with pals of the different intercourse? i come across my friendships each and every handle their very own dynamic, so they are all distinctive. Do you come across you're extra "your self" or extra "comfortable" around comparable intercourse pals or distinctive intercourse pals? i could no longer make a large difference based upon gender, yet there are individual modifications, unquestionably some pals with whom i'm extra open than others. Do you think of it works or no longer? are you able to particularly have opposite intercourse pals and there by no skill be any aspects of "sexual chemistry"? specific, sexual chemistry isn't inevitably area of a m/f friendship. now and lower back there is, now and lower back there's no longer. Do you think of it makes any difference in case you have brothers AND sisters as to who's business corporation you desire? no longer possibly, yet then i'm extra susceptible to have distinctive techniques with regard to the climate at play in each and every individual friendship, and not likely to make sweeping generalisations approximately pals on the foundation of gender. I had a brother and no sisters, my courting with my brother grew to become into no longer a good one however because of the fact he has schizophrenia, however the shortcoming of standard sibling relationships in my existence did no longer seem to effect upon my determination of pals, besides the shown fact that come to think of of it, perhaps it does tell my lifelong love of solitude. I did constantly wish for a real brother or a large sister while i grew to become right into a newborn however!