I fell in love with someone I have only spoken with on the phone and email. His sister is my best friend....he's 55, I'm 43...and I'm married. Now...to "protect" me...he has cut off all communication. I am devastated...how can I get through this? I feel so empty...so dead now.
2006-12-22 16:52:18 · 5 answers · asked by nomore4me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you're not in love. you're infatuated and smittened. u cannot fall in love with someone you've never met. love takes time to grow and develop. you'll get over it as soon as the infatuation dissipates!
2006-12-22 16:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to imagine, but loneliness and lack of confidence tempts us to invest our faith and emotions in people and things that hurt us. Jobs and casual friends are examples.
It is easy to guess that your marriage is lacking in some areas. Your friend is smart to remove himself from the situation. You need to use your head and honestly face why you were looking for love outside of marriage.
Your male friend would not like being a home-wrecker. He may be friendly with your husband. He sounds like an honorable person to step out of the picture.
I'd recommend that you work on your marriage before you look outside of it again. You are a sensitive person who has some emotional need that is not being met.
See about a counselor. You might be able to understand better why you fell so hard for your best friend's brother in the first place.
Good Luck!
2006-12-23 01:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His "cutting you off" is not to protect you...it's to tempt you. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying he is bad, but he is doing it for selfish reasons and not just for you.
Do you want to end your marriage? This is the first thing (only thing right now) you need to deal with. You cannot have both. If you want to end your marriage, then do so. If this other person is still around once that is done, then you are free to explore the relationship.
You have never seen / physically been with this man. You don't know him to the level you need to in order to determine relationship compatibility.
I know none of this alleviates your feelings of emptiness. But try to deal with things in the correct order because you will pay dearly for it if you don't. If you do not want to stay in your marriage, you need to deal with that situation first.
2006-12-23 01:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lying and cheating on your husband.
You need to give yourself a good talking to and begin to act like a grown-up woman who is married....because you are.
2006-12-23 00:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it,he is just a fantasy.
2006-12-23 01:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋