HELP??? I can't let go of them. maybe because no one ever actually listens to me and I have never talked about them so i keep them bottled up.. how can I let go of them?
2006-12-22 16:44:07 · 9 answers · asked by Love Exists? 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm like you....i have learned the best way is to have compassion for the wrongdoers.....you will feel good inside if you can do that......especially easy if you were all just kids......i got picked on alot because i was so introverted....one of my lessons in life was to stand up for myself.....forgive them and ALSO yourself.........i'm not religous.....just learned from experience how to make my life nicer..
2006-12-22 17:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Summer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. i have the exact same problem. i keep grudges forever. i still have this one against this girl from five years ago, when she tried to steal my friend. now, im older and wise, and realize that she probably didnt TRY, but she still did, and i still cant let it go.
i suggest, since you're keeping your emotions all bottled up, that you be alone and just scream your head off. its what i do. it helps me forgive myself when i do something stupid, too!
if you're not into screaming, i'd suggest you talk to your cousins, no matter how painful it might be. getting it out in the open will definitely help.
2006-12-23 00:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by give it to me baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better for you to remove this from your system. It is a very self-consuming activity. If you still don't get a good response from them, just leave it alone. Remember, you cannot please everyone and there are things that are beyond one's control. Just try to forget about it if you can. You can try yoga or do self-meditation to control anger. Remove hate from your system. It causes a lot of stress which can have bad effects on one's health. Do something that you always love doing and that would take your mind off this issue. It's not worth your time, ok? Just pray.
2006-12-23 01:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to talk them out, nothing gets resolved unless it is out in the open and another person knows what they did and can rectify the situation. Start doing it, make it a resolution, and you will be a lot healthier, physically and mentally!
2006-12-23 01:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one's listening, write it on a sheet of paper or scream it out loud. Was what your cousins did absolutely unforgiveable? Or were you just mad at the time because you were young and it seemed unforgiveable?
2006-12-23 01:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by yeahyeah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were searching for answers, I think you found them within yourself. You should talk about what is eating you up, if you bottle things up, your feelings will only turn more sour.
2006-12-23 00:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Chris E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hold grudges too..... forever.
It may not be the healthiest thing, but thats just the way some people are.
2006-12-23 01:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Viola Shumski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cousins were idiots at that time in there lives but , may no longer be...keeping grudges physically harms you over time....
2006-12-23 00:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by paradigm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on if u are a religious person.... ask God for help
2006-12-23 00:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋