but,i feel,his words are empty.i told him,and he insist that,he means it.but i just cant feel love in his words anymore.i told him,i neded passion,and romance.wich,i do.im so bored,of the same old thing.i want unexpected things.but,i know,everything thats gonna happen,and how,before he even do it.im bored.i buy him porn mags,and videos,so he can get a couple of ideas,but its like,if his imagination its gone.any advice?
2006-12-22 16:40:57 · 22 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is an old saying: Actions speak louder than words. Trust your gut instinct. What you FEEL is probably the reality.
2006-12-22 16:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy jane 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow...The question is how do you feel in the relationship ? If U want passion & excitement it's up 2 U to flip the script... Make him chase after U like in the beginning of your relationship. Spice it up a bit Take control. Follow your HEART but be spontanious with it & remember the simple things in life R best. Hang in there & Good Luck.
2006-12-22 16:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by 1Luv 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to change things up. Go out on dates to different places. Go dancing if you normally don't. Go to a nice restaurant where you have to dress up a little instead of a casual jeans and t-shirt kind of place. Tell him what you want instead of hinting at it. Most importantly, try to keep communication with him open. It is the best way to succeed. Talk through things so that you can both understand more about each others wants and needs.
2006-12-22 16:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i be attentive to the style you sense. I advised my bf I enjoyed him some weeks in the past and he advised me that he can no longer tell me he loves me maximum surprising now. I admire him for that. I additionally requested him if he had to breakup and he mentioned no. He likes issues in basic terms the way they are, he isn't interested in seeing everybody else and he in basic terms needs to work out what occurs down the line. no longer all and sundry falls in love on the comparable time, it could take some people longer. do no longer push her in basic terms say that's ok which you would be able to stay on the line you're on and notice the place it leads and don't carry it up returned. I did this and the day gone by he mentioned possibly living mutually. i be attentive to he cares for me and that i will take what i can get for now yet i'm no longer able to sell myself short. sturdy success!!!
2016-12-11 14:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt thsi way with my ex... and he felt the smae somewhat.. sorry to say but it looks like ur realtionship needs a new.. You dont have feelings for him anymore.. i know its hard to break up but when u find someone else.. youd be happier.. and not bored..well, i am happier without my ex.. cuz i noticed how much of a creep he can be..we havent talked for a LONG time.. and im now happy and engaged to someone else. :) Good luck to ya! P.s. If u 2 break up, try to keep urself busy and focus on urself and date rush into relationships otherwise more will go down hill. but if u really wanna try to work it out..if i was you talk to him.. Communicatation is the key to an sucessful realtionship.
2006-12-23 00:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your partner is not prepared to do some of the more exciting things you want him to do, then he really doesn't want to try. Talk to him about this. He may be happy with the relationship just as it is because he doesn't have to work at it. A lot of men are. That is not to say that he does not love you just that he doesn't want to make an effect for you in which case you have to decide whether you want to make an effect for him.
2006-12-22 16:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lock 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When relationships get too comfortable it can seem like the fire has totally gone out and all thats left is a smouldering heap , there are so many ways you can get it burning again , just don't leave the ball in his court men can be clueless , be romantic & spontanious yourself trust me he will love it and it wont be long before he is doing it to .
2006-12-22 17:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how u feel! My husband is the same way. I think I didn't expect much out of him when we first got together, and therefore, he doesn't feel like he needs to put out more. We never try anything new, and Sundays it's our routine to fool around, because we're bored, more than anything. I think it's that men feel like their feelings are always expressed by saying 'I love you' and that's all that matters. They say they love you, what else is there for them to say? I don't think they fully understand that women need more emotional things, and actions are much louder than their words. Anyway, maybe you should start making the first moves... just to get his mind going. Maybe after a couple of times, he might think the difference is fun and try it himself! It's worked a couple times for us.
2006-12-22 16:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Oria 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop with the mags. go buy a position book, some candles, and sexy something, and if won't do the passion and romance you do it. He will get into it. Some guys jusr don't know how to do that.
2006-12-22 16:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my advise is to be honest.
that solves a hell of a lot of problems and is quite underrated.
you are bored for failing to take risks yourself.
you are taking the back seat, being driven around and complaining for the ride.
you will never be happy with any man until you learn to please yourself, suprise yourself.
Open up, challenge yourself. Seriously...dont put it on him for not taking hints. Thats not what guys do. You can't measure a man by things left unsaid or undone on account of your wants. You should be happy you have a guy thats so easy to please. Sounds like a healthy gent to me.
2006-12-22 16:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋