My sister's husband has announced he is leaving her (nice Christmas gift, right?) She is a stay at home mom and has no money of her own. He has cut off her access to any accounts. He has also taken her self-confidence. She feels like she won't be able to get a job since she's been out of work for so long. I need to help her through this somehow. The first step is to get a lawyer, but she has no money to do that. Are there any options out there for a legal help with a divorce when the mom has no money?
2006-12-22 16:14:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all she needs to speak to an attorney, they can help her find legal representation for a low or free amount if they can't provide it. Second she does not need to seek a job if she has been a stay at home mom. An attorney can file for an emergency order for her husband to pay child support, temp alimony and possibly provide a place to live. A judge can restore access to her or freeze the acct. from him until the divorce is final.
This is hard, but she needs to take a deep breath and think thru all she does. Don't make quick decisions, in the end they will hurt instead of help. HE can take nothing from her including self-confidence unless SHE allows him to.
If he has not filed for divorce she should strongly consider filing first. It is a different ballgame then. She can get thru this. I did. You are a true sibling to stand and help her. Be strong and I hope this helps some.
2006-12-22 17:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by 93octane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear such sad news. Is there legal aid available to you where you live. You can tell your sister that a complete stranger (me) has said that life may look scary to her right now but NOTHING could be scarier than living with someone who treats her the way her husband has treated her. Stay calm with her and keep reassuring her she will make it. A day at a time. Perhaps you could call a lawyer and just ask what her rights are. I know where I live it is 50/50. Do they own a home??? I really hope you are able to cope with this problem through this time. Take lots of deep breaths and God Bless you all.
2006-12-23 00:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by ja m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lawyers are sometimes free to talk to an see legal ways some will take a % of the settlement that your sister will receive or only get paid if she wins. your sister has not worked then she is able to get money from her husband spouse support they vary from 1- the day she dies all what the lawyers will have to speak about for the time she can go to a self help or welfare office an explain what happen they will be more then helpful to get her in the path she needs esp if she has kids
2006-12-23 00:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, apply for any jobs she can directly.....until then sign in with a temporary service for they can place her in any number of jobs that can enhance the skills she already has and build up more ..... this will provide income and many offer insurance after certan length of time.
She can decide if wishes to take temp postions daily, weekly, monthly, unto employment offer.
Also, contact local legal aid or go online for further information.
Remind her this hurts but there was life before him and there is life without him.
She has her life and the care of those children to keep intact.
She had much to offer him and now the world!
Apply for any state benefits for her and the children(should he not continue to provide) until able to obtain thru employer.
Contact local churches for any counseling needed and pantry helps.
Give it to the Lord and He will lead from here!
God bless and it still can be a merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-23 00:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are low cost legal aid clinics. Help her through this tough time. Don't let him step all over her. She has rights. She is entitled to alimony and child support. Help her believe she can get through this and come out on top. Of course she can find a job. She just needs a little encouragement. She is lucky to have you. Support her as much as you can. Tell her she's better of without him. He must be a real a****** to leave her without a penny. He'll get his, believe me. Take care and God bless.
2006-12-23 00:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT WAS SOME CHRISTMAS FOR YOUR SISTER, BUT
AS THEY SAY DONT LET IT GET THE BEST OF YOU. THERE
ARE LEGAL AGENCY IN YOUR STATE THAT SHE CAN GO
TO SURE THAT WONT COST MUCH MONEY, AS FOR HER
NOT GETTING A JOB, SHE WILL TRUST ME, A STAY HOME\
MOM THAT IS A JOB IN IT SELF. SO DONT COUNT THIS
AS A FAILURE. BUT YOU ARE A GOOD SISTER TO BE
WITH HER. AND IT WILL GET BETTER DOWN THE ROAD
FOR HER, YOU AND SHE HAVE A MERRY CHRISTMAS
AND A VERY BLESSED NEW YEAR.
2006-12-23 00:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY STATE HAS WHAT YOU CALL LEGAL AIDES.. ITS SET UP FOR THAT PURPOSE...PEOPLE WITH LITTLE OR NO MONEY........AND HOW DID SHE ALLOW HIM TO CONTROL ALL THE ASSETS ANYWAY....I WAS A AT-HOME-MOM ALSO... BUT ONE OF MY JOBS WAS TO GET TRACK OF ALL THE MONEY........HE WOULD MAKE IT I WOULD SPEND IT.. THAT IS WHERE SHE MESSED UP AT.... AND LET HER KNOW THAT ITS LIFE AFTER DEAF... DON'T LET HIM DESTROY HER... HE CAN GET A JOB... IT MIGHT HAVE TO BE A SIMPLE MIM. WAGE JOB BUT IT BEATS NOTHING... AND SHE ALSO ASK FOR SPOUSE SUPPORT AND FILE FOR ABUNDANTMENT TOO.. ONE WAY OR ANOTHER HE WOULDN'T WALK OUT THAT EASY.... BUT LET GO.. HE THINK ITS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE BUT IT ISN'T.. HE WILL WISH HE WOULD HAVE STAYED WITH HER.. TELL HER TO GET BUSY... AND DON'T LET HIM KNOW HER EVERY MOVE....THAT WAY HE WILL BE TEN STEPS BEHIND...GOOD LUCK......THERE WILL BE JOY IN THE MORNING FOR HER..... I PROMISE........
2006-12-23 00:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has money. She is entitled to half of whatever is in those accounts her husband has barred her access to. And that's the first thing she needs to address with her lawyer - her husband's theft of what is rightfully hers.
2006-12-23 00:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
he has to pay for the divorce and he has to pay for child support and he has to give them a place to live till they are 18 she will be fine
2006-12-23 00:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by harley w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wish her the best bro u a good man
2006-12-23 00:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Brian_Tc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋