Ok first of all I was never attracted to older men and MARRIED guys.
I went through a horrible devestating trauma(emotionally more physically and don't worry I did what I had to do, heal and counseling and legal stuff too so please don't suggest it since I already did it).
Well after that I'd find myself attracted to married men no matter how old they were. So I'd avoid them like the plague for a month and the attraction would disappear.
Now what would this be??
2006-12-22 16:11:07 · 11 answers · asked by Queen of Dumb Questions 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have a great relationship with my dad
2006-12-22 16:15:01 · update #1
trauma didn't involve a married man
2006-12-22 16:17:06 · update #2
A lot of people find themselves wanting things they can never have. There's nothing wrong with you.
2006-12-22 16:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too vague. Did your trauma involve a married man? Were you saved by a married man?
2006-12-23 00:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by C. J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are remembering something from
your past that you've shut away and ignored all this time.
Either that, or you are just exploring your sexuality in
a new way. Wouldn't hurt to seek counseling again.
You may have dealt with one part of your life but this
could be something new. Something to consider.
2006-12-23 00:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe does not seem to be pathological. Sounds like a simple (or not so simple) case of fear of intimacy. You choose men who are unavailable because they cannot reject you for who you are. It does result from your trauma, but it is not a "mental illness."
2006-12-23 00:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have unresolved deep seeded issues with your father, (i'm not positive on this), and in a result you look for men who seem responsible (but if they cheat on their wives, it is exactly the oppisite) and older. basically, the thing you'll really be getting out of the relationship is more of a father figure, or so you want, becasue you never had one. but....... this is all assuming you have issues with your father. other than that, it could just be a faze.....
2006-12-23 00:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now. I think you are seeking a calm delight as you look over your shoulder at a thief who will come and steal, kill, and destroy your good qualitties, good heart as you wonder about your motivation for walking the line you chose.
In-other-words your (?)for me is abot a LONG dAYS JOURNEY INTO NIGHT.
2006-12-23 00:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blanch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a result. Perhaps you're attracted to these men because something about their status makes you feel safe.
But PLEASE, by no means think that I'm saying it would be okay to act on these feelings.
2006-12-23 00:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted men that were not available to you. Maybe short term, but pretty much a relationship that would go nowhere.
2006-12-23 00:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe you may need to discuss this with youre doctor.
2006-12-23 00:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by tomy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married. what to come over?
2006-12-23 00:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by woo-lee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋