and she said that i was anyyoing and that she hates me?
BUT I DON"T UNDERSTAND WHY SHE DID THIS? WE WERE REALLY CLOSE 4 THE PAST 2 YEARS!!!!
I know she's not a true friend now!!!!
BUT I HAVE TO CONFRONT HER? HOW SHOULD I?
2006-12-22 15:21:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should start out with why you like her and why you have thought a lot of her in the last 2 years enough to consider her your best friend.
Then tell her that best friends are suppose to stick close to each other and tell each other things to their face, not behind their backs. They are suppose to watch each others backs, not laugh behind them.
Tell her how upset you are and how disappointed you are in her as a friend that she could do those things to you and how she has just lost the trust in the friendship you had in her.
I would ask her to explain herself. Give her the chance to do that at least and hear her side of the story. Tell her it is disrespectful to talk behind others back, especially ones that you care for. What goes around comes around.
I hope she apologizes to you and you both can still at least be friends in the future. You should at least forgive her, even if you cannot forget what she has done. You don't have to be her friend again if you don't want to, but just forgive her. If you don't, it will eat you up eventually and you will become a bitter, angry person. There are really nice true friends out there that are probably right under your nose.
Hugs to you. I wish you well and I hope you two can mend your friendship. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 15:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give up on confronting her. Confronting only works with someone who has regards for your feelings and respects and cares for you. It is obvious that she doesn't give a damn so confronting her will probably be a waste of time. It will lead to an argument or her just thinking your all the bit more annoying.
Let it go. Move on.
Its funny how people's seams begin to show and just be happy hers started to show now and not later.
And quite honestly, time does not make someone your best friend. It is loyalty, respect, and honor. So make sure to keep that in mind when you decide to let in your personal circle.
But once again, like I said, she obviously has no regards for your feelings and you in general, so confronting her wont help at all.
2006-12-22 15:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dance Diva 88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you found out what she said about you.And if that's how she feels about you and your friendship,why chase after her.I was in the same situation,so i left that person,knowing that even though i left some of my good memories w/ her,she's not a true friend if she says things behind your back.If she was a true friend,she would defend you,not fight against you.I hope you do the right thing.
2006-12-22 17:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by •nel• 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be trustworthy together with her, telling her which you already know that she has been gossiping approximately you in the back of your back (ie: be waiting to grant quite a few examples), and tell her which you do no longer like it . . . if she nonetheless keeps to talk approximately you, even if you have confronted her, you likely ought to drop her as a "buddy" . . . Greet her once you notice her yet do no longer divulge own information approximately your self together with her. via your conserving your distance, she gets the message and you will possibly have dealt with this occasion in a manner that doesn't warrant attempting to get regardless of her. you will possibly have taken the intense street and function shown super adulthood interior the technique.
2016-10-15 11:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by shakita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be classy but rude at the same time. Don't stoop to her level of saying mean things, but be short sweet and to the point. Tell her that you've heard things around and that you shouldn't be friends anymore. Break things off altogether. Don't worry about her after that (You're better off without a friend like that anyways)
2006-12-22 15:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her and ask her why she said that. If she says she doesn't know or a stupid answer like that, repeat your question. Tell her how you don't think she should be talking mess about you. Try not cuss her out or get into a fist fight with her-even if you think you could win.
Just be calm but firm. Stand up for yourself though if she gives you any negative comments.
2006-12-22 15:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not a true friend at all....Stop being her friend and find real ones, friends that r there for you not stabbing you in the back like ur bff now
2006-12-22 16:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the better thing you can do... confront her talk to her ask her why she hurt you in that way, something has got to be happening that maybe you didn't notice, you just got to think if she is she worth enough to keep her as your friend depending on what she answers you, and let her know that it will be hard for you to trust in her again.
2006-12-22 16:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Cobrarette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you confront her you need to point out the fact that she was too weak to tell you to your face what she thought of you and that as a consequence, you're glad to be rid of her.
2006-12-22 15:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Liberty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a "best friend." Just talk to her about it......calmly......calmly.....no yelling. It's much more effective. Tell her what you heard and how you feel. You've probably talked about her behind her back also, I think we all do that.
2006-12-22 15:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋