i found(no i was not snooping,i had his permission to print something) an e-mail from an old gf on my husbands account.it was just sent and unread by him and i deleted it.this it what it said tom how are you?it was nice to see you again even if you did give me the cold shoulder.your kids are so big! mary. my husband never told me he ran into her but he must have had his 2 girls from his first marrage with him from her comment.i know this seams like no big deal but my husband left his 1st wife for her and they have a long history together.she has a profile on match.com so i know shes single and looking.so my questions are it sounds like he ran into her in like a store or something and they just said hi so why would she follow it up with an e-mail?what do you think she ment by "giving me the cold shoulder?"
2006-12-22 15:11:13 · 21 answers · asked by tammymartin0978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know he gave her the cold shoulder BUT his 2 girls were with him and are old enough to talk,what if they had not been around to "report him"
2006-12-22 15:30:06 · update #1
SOUNDS like he wasn't concerned enough to even mention it to you & its GREAT that he gave her the cold shoulder! I soo wouldnt worry about it..just pay attention for awhile.
2006-12-22 15:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Freakgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he gave her the cold shoulder that means he wasn't interested, right?
What I would do: casually mention you ran into an ex, make up a story. Then after you finish your story, casually ask if he ever sees any of his ex's. Hopefully he tells you the truth! Most likely he just didn't bring it up because he didn't want to worry you.
I had the same thing happen, before my husband and I were married. He told the ex he didn't want to talk to her anymore, and it all worked out. Good Luck!
2006-12-22 15:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that he is definately not into her. If she feels he gave her the cold shoulder then he definately didn't react warmly or make an effort to be friendly - and rightly so, He has you!!
She is single and probably was hoping for a nicer reception, if only to boost her self esteem. It certainly looks like she sent the e-mail to fish for some attention, maybe hoping to bring up some old feelings in him, but clearly she didn't have that effect on him.
I think he didn't tell you he saw her, firstly because it meant nothing to him and secondly because he didn't want to you to worry over nothing. I know my boyfriend doesn't like to hear if i run into old b/fs because it just makes him jealous.
I wouldn't tell him you saw the e-mail and I wouldn't worry about her impacting on your relationship in any way.
2006-12-22 15:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is content being married to YOU, not her :D The "cold shoulder" shows that he made it perfectly clear that he has no intention of having any kind of relationship with her. He probably didn't mention it because he didn't think it was important; he is SO over this chick that he doesn't even take notice of her, either in person or via email.
Put her email on his spam list and don't worry. She's just fishing for attention, and your hubby isn't biting! ;-)
2006-12-22 15:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldnt worry too much. Him giving her the cold shoulder was a good thing. He is obviously open with you or else he wouldnt have had you in his email for any reason. Rest assured that nothing is going on with her. Give your hubby the love and attention he deserves and know that if you continue to do that he should remain a devoted man to you.
2006-12-22 15:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was not interested in her when he did run into her. I wouldn't worry about him being unfaithful with her. You could tell him you found the email and deleted it if it bothers you. You should always be honest and have good communication in your marriage, no matter what. It sounds like you have a good husband. He probably didn't think anything of her when he ran into her and she probably irritated him is why the cold shoulder. You are the one he chose and who he is with. Have faith and love him for who he is and what he does for you and your family. God Bless you and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 15:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold shoulder = quick thinking to brush off someones attempts at starting a conversation.
I think you have nothing to fear from this Mary gal.
I think the email shows he was being true to you, and as far as him not telling you about avoiding an (x). Well how short of a leash do you want him on.
2006-12-22 15:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jungleroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be making something out of nothing.Be careful.What men consider "nothing" is truly nothing at all.Woman,by nature are jealous and over-reactors.If you found it, it probably wasn't hidden.Leave it alone.You already have your answers.He gave her the cold shoulder and thought nothing more of it.Leave it alone before you make something out of nothing.Trust me on this.Don't forget that women can be vixons and plant things in your head.She may be after your husband without him knowing nothing about anything but, I would be careful.Have you seen the movie 'The Hand That rocks the cradle?
2006-12-22 15:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Boriqua P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats easy
hes not interested in her
he likes you
thats why he gave her the cold shoulder
he probably didnt tell you because it was no biggy and he might have thought youd make a big deal about it
guys dont always talk about stuff like that
i dont think you should get paranoid over it unless she sends more emails or anything like that
well good luck ;)!
2006-12-22 15:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it meant that he didn't want to talk to her. Either way it sounds like whatever happened to break them up is the reason why he gave her the cold shoulder.
Don't stress about it.
2006-12-22 17:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋