i found(no i was not snooping,i had his permission to print something) an e-mail from an old gf on my husbands account.it was just sent and unread by him and i deleted it.this it what it said tom how are you?it was nice to see you again even if you did give me the cold shoulder.your kids are so big! mary. my husband never told me he ran into her but he must have had his 2 girls from his first marrage with him from her comment.i know this seams like no big deal but my husband left his 1st wife for her and they have a long history together.she has a profile on match.com so i know shes single and looking.so my questions are it sounds like he ran into her in like a store or something and they just said hi so why would she follow it up with an e-mail?what do you think she ment by "giving me the cold shoulder?"
2006-12-22 15:10:37 · 15 answers · asked by tammymartin0978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know he gave her the cold shoulder,but did he do it for the right reason or because his girls were with him and would report him to me
2006-12-22 15:34:33 · update #1
Honestly l would say you have nothing to worry yourself about. Going by what she said alone. He obviously was not friendly to her in any way. He probably did not mention running into her as it meant nothing to him and he didn't want to stir up the past. Why she followed it up with an email, who knows !! Maybe she was annoyed that he gave her no attention or maybe it was just a friendly little gesture. It really doesn't matter either way as all the email did was confirm that your husband only loves and has eyes for you. She did you a favour really. Don't worry yourself any longer, you have nothing to worry about with your man. Best of luck to you all and Merry Xmas.
2006-12-22 15:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is that Tom ignored her, so I doubt he's interested in her anymore. The bad news is she's interested in screwing around with him again. You're married to him, so just be honest and tell him you saw the email, you didn't mean to, and you appreciate him giving Mary the cold shoulder. That will get him talking.
What I'm curious about is how did Mary get his email address? Did she have it from a long time ago, or did she look it up somehow? Mary is a homewrecker of the worst kind. She is one of those women who gets off on sleeping with a man who is married.
Now as I'm writing this I'm thinking you can email Mary back and tell her to keep her crotch out of your marriage, that her slutty, flea-infested private parts aren't welcome here. I'm getting angry now, and I think I hate her.
Don't let her come between you and Tom, whatever you do. She's not worth it. I really think he loves you, or her email would have been a lot different!
2006-12-22 15:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has feeling that he doesn't share. As 4 the cold shoulder it's probably because he was trying 2 avoid her but that didn't happen! As 4 the e-mail address is it new & it is is how did she get it? Tell ur husband what happened & that u deleated it but u wanted 2 b honest w/ him abt what u happened 2 come across. She probably is looking but ur husband is NOT giving her the time of day from what u described! Ask ur husband abt it, it can't hurt. Good luck!
2006-12-22 15:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a problem if he starts e-corresponding with her. But from the sound of it he wants nothing to do with her.
Since he let you into his computer, you might say that you happened to see the e-mail ...give him a kiss and say how much you love him. The subtle message is that he did the "right thing". Guys just eatup positive reinforcement.
Use your head, dear!!
2006-12-22 15:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she still has feelings or issues with him..from the sound of her comment "cold shoulder" he wasn't encouraging it. However she does have his email. is it the one he has always had or did he give it to her. That would be my ?. As for deleting it....I wouldn't have done that so you could talk about it together because now you have starting other trust issues with you deleting his mail.
2006-12-22 15:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mary wants your husband! but for whichever reason he tried to brush her off. now you need to praise him for that and make sure that he doesn't have a reason to want to hook up with mary again. now would be an excellent time to give him a fantasy fulfillment for Christmas. by the way you probably should start by apologizing for deleting the email in your anger.
2006-12-23 04:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt. He gave her the cold shoulder as if to say "I'm taken" That being said, relax.
2006-12-22 17:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it meant he didn't pay attention to her. I'd be careful. She had no business sending him an e-mail. You had no business erasing it either. I'd be honest with him and see what he says. He was wrong for not telling you he ran into her. I'd apologize for erasing his e-mail and let him know you want to know when he runs into, or gets another e-mail from her. He needs to be honest with you or you will not trust him next time you find something.
2006-12-22 15:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry i'm no longer a guy yet... i'd have replied to her digital mail and enable her understand she replaced into strolling on skinny ice whilst it got here to chatting with my guy... you husband has no longer something to conceal if he assist you to into his digital mail account to get something... then you particularly stumbled on chicks digital mail she sent. No enormous deal i think of him giving her the chilly shoulder says lots and he would think of of her as a hardship maker and plans to stay sparkling. they did no longer be able to stay together says volumes to me so a procedures because it did no longer paintings between them... refer to him relating to the digital mail... I doubt he would be mad which you deleted it... tell him it replaced into an impulse... stable success!!!
2016-12-15 06:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by pfarr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making way too big a deal out of that email. She is fishing and he is not taking the bait. Be happy that he is not interested in her and don't bring it up to him. You will just put him on the spot and you will seem clingy and insecure. Or desperate.... like HER!
2006-12-22 15:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Hopefully wiser now 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋