OK..alot going on here. Ineed legal advise &emotional support. To set this up>My ex remarried last May. I knew her husband when they were divorcing over 5 years ago>he dated my best friend for a year and I his brother. New wife does not like me because of this. She and my ex husband do not 'know' me. It has been 5 years. My ex and I have a tulmutuous relationship to begin with and she feeds it. We have 50/50 placement and joint custody. They have changed primary care providers without my permission so my insurance (he has none and she now carries them) will not pay out. They changed school districts without my permission to the district they now live in. I ended up picking up my life and moving to a city 40 min away from work because it was too late to change them back when I found out. They have sought dental tx, again with out permission, where my ins does not cover and hers only pays 30% when mine pays 80% at my provider. She tells them to keep 'secrets', there is much much more....
2006-12-22 15:04:56 · 4 answers · asked by Smiling Belle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl you need an attorney to remind them of the joint custody agreement... where all decisions are 50/50. Your ex is letting her control things and it looks like there isn't much you can do there. But in court... they won't be addressing her and you can request her presence not be allowed. It's sad but this will probably go on until your ex divorces the controling bi**tch and even could continue after the kids are grown. Sorry... but most of your problem is legal and the emotional supports is a email away... lots of good people here at YA. All i could suggest for now is to grin and bare it... and get legal advice... Good luck!
2006-12-22 15:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pathetic that these people are using your children to make your life difficult. Since there is no communication between you and your ex, you are going to have to get a lawyer. Every state has legal aid services that can help you at little or no cost. Look in your phone book under Legal, Attorneys or Lawyers. I wish you the best. I know this is difficult, and I have a feeling that your children are more mature than your ex and his wife. Like I said, pathetic.
2006-12-22 15:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the fire of anger just keeps growing bigger. Maybe you might think about taking a few steps back, trying to sit down with them, and listen (really listen) to her worries.. even if they are unfounded. Then tell them how you feel. If you approach it from a point of compassion and trying to find middle ground, maybe you might be able to salvage a relationship for the sake of your children. It is a hard thing to do, I know. My sons father came to me one day after we had been living together for 5 years, and told me that he had been seeing a woman for a few months that he thinks is the one, he loves her, and wants to marry her, so I needed to move out. I felt awful, betrayed. and angry. But it happened, and I moved out, she moved in. Now she is in my sons life, and I have to try to be friendly with her, because I want my son to have a smooth happy life, in spite of living at two different houses. I don't think it would benefit him any for there to be so much anger between she and I. I am lucky that she is able to behave herself with me as well. But sometimes, you just have to be the better woman, because it is more important to make the path smooth for you kids, than to be angry and hurt, even when you are the victim.
2006-12-22 15:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you lost me the first 3 lines_
2006-12-22 15:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋