I have seen the passion fade in all my family's marriages and I don't want it to happen in mine.
2006-12-22 14:52:00 · 12 answers · asked by young again 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you both get too comfortable and used to with each other-the spark and the butterflies in the stomach just gone.
Suprise him now and then with nice home cooked dinner, a nice sms or small sweet notes in his wallet before he goes to work, get adventurous again and try different things in the bedroom, suprise him w sending a box of chocolate to his office, listening ear and patience when he has problem at work.
He will response to your care and loving attention and suddenly..you are in honeymoon again:). We should show the other half that we love them by action, not by words only
2006-12-22 14:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While we are not married 15+ yrs (only 8 yrs) we had long term 1st marriages (17 and 20 yrs) before the divorce. We learned a lot of valuable information on how to keep a marriage loving and lasting. The most important is communication - you have to be able to talk about good and bad things together without a lot of fighting. You have to work at keeping your marriage alive and strong EVERY day. Never take your spouse for granted or assume they know what to do, etc. Spouses are NOT mind readers. Work out problems together - especially when it comes to children/disapline and finances. If you are not on the same page with those things, you will have many more fights and that will tear down the marriage. Always respect each other and NEVER use sex as a weapon (withholding, etc). Treat each other like you want to be treated.
2016-03-13 09:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna happen! Sorry dude! I didn't want it to happen to me, but it did. You might get lucky, and be one of those very few couples that get to keep it.
The reason it fades away, is because you don't need to use as much romance and passion to get the person you're after! Once you have someone in marriage, you don't feel the need to have to keep chasing after them. But if you keep trying to chase after them, you'll keep the passion alive.
Romance is not hard at all!! Just buy things every now and then, and make romantic dinner plans! Make sure that you understand, and communicate. If you don't communicate, everything will wind up going in the shitter! Mine did, but we're working on it, and it's alot harder to work on it, then it would be to keep it alive! Trust me. I'm going on 7 yrs of marriage, and about of it hasn't been the greatest, and the past 2 yrs have been nothing but pure misery, pain and plain out hell! Call us massocists! lol We love each other.
2006-12-22 15:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Always make sure you have a honest openminded conversations. Sit down at the kitchen table and discuss your problems and how each of you feel. Never go to sleep mad and always kiss each other before leaving for work. Compliment your wife even if it is just a small compliment. Never take each other for granted! Help with the housework and also the yard work together. Togetherness is a major problem for alot of married couples! Never be sorry to say I Love you...If you work together then you bind and should have a good relationship and wonderful marriage. Always try outside interests like go to movies with her and maybe she will go fishing with you.
2006-12-22 15:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Carol H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very long term relationship once in my life and I found that my passion increased over time, not the other way around. It's my man who lost interest in me, while for me, the more I knew him the more I loved him. But I guess over time he got more interested in things he couldn't have if he was going to be with me.. so he cheated and I was devastated because I thought his passions for me were like mine for him. Why does this happen? Who knows.. "all is fair in love and war" and the things that happen can't always be easily explained, or go the way you expect them to. If your feelings are true your fire won't go out... the more you have the more you want. Be honest with yourself and admit you aren't ready emotionally to love someone wholeheartedly.
2006-12-22 15:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been wondering the same thing myself and the only thing I can come up with is to still be working at it like you are now. You are trying to make an effort which is all you can do. Also, it seems like so many couples get wrapped up in their everyday lives, and forget to be appreciative of the things that are important...each other.
2006-12-22 15:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by lo lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like keeping your car running at it's best takes regular maintenance your marriage needs the same kind of regular "maintainence" my wife and i have been married for28 years and our fires are still blazing but we have g\been careful to carve out three weekend get-aways a year each of our birthdays and our anniversary other couples have weekly date nights you just have to find the best way to performe maintainence for you and your spouse you can also find a lot of books on the subject. one that i can recommend is
Secrets To Lasting Love : Uncovering The Keys To Lifelong intimacy by gary smalley
you can get it at amazon.com
you have already taken the first step by realizing that most of the couples around us aren't realizing the full potential of their marriage and yours can be different
2006-12-22 15:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DOESNT HAVE TOO BUT IT TAKES WORK AND COMMITMENT WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 29 YRS OUR 3 SONS ARE IN THIER 20S AND WE HAVE 2 .4GRANDSONS BUT THE PASSION AND ROMANIC IS STILL THERE BUT WE DO SILLY THINGS LIKE LAST YR I WRAPPED MYSELF UP FOR HIS CHRISTMAS GIFT WITH A NOT HANGING ON MY NECK THAT READ " THIS GIFT IS NOT NEWAND IT HAS BEEN USED BUT BABY IT STILL GOT A LOT OF LOVE FOR YU WHEN HE WALKED IN THE LIVING ROOM AND FOUND ME LAYING IN FRONT OF THE TREE HE SLOWLY SAT DOWN BESIDE ME READ THE NOTE SMILED AND KISSED ME AND SAID CAN I OPEN MY GIFT I PROMISE TO BE A GOOD BOY " THING S LIKE THAT AND THINGS LIKE GOING TO LUNCH AND TALKING OF WHAT IS AHEASD AFTER SUPPER WEEKEND TRIPS GO PARKING I REFLUSS TO BE IN A BOARING MARRIAGE I DONT CARE HOW OLD WE GET I WILL FINE A WAY NOT TO GET THE HUM DRUMS AND YOU CAN TOO
2006-12-22 17:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the passion & romance & lust & heat fade a bit but they
do not disappear...And the love does not fade....
2006-12-22 15:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 12:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by birney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋