my husband likes to watch porn before we have sex or when I am not around. Is that a clue that he will cheat on me one day or I shouldn't be worried at all?
2006-12-22 14:47:37 · 22 answers · asked by myangelbarry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it is not an indication that he will cheat...it's simply an indication that he enjoys porn.
2006-12-22 14:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Men like to look at naked women. And why wouldn't they? They're men. They're supposed to like the look of women, aren't they? There's nothing wrong with a man having a healthy fantasy life. If he isn't doing anything in the real world that is suspicious, cut him a break. Or maybe consider taking a look at some porn yourself. Maybe you'd actually like it, and come to see how little of an issue it is.
On the other hand, if this is really something that bothers you deep down, try to figure out why it bothers you. Are you insecure about the way those women look? Do you think he wants you to do the things they are doing in the movies? Understanding why you're really upset can go a long way to getting past it. After all, these aren't real people in his life. They're just images on a screen, no more real than a horror movie. You're the real woman in his life. They're just...appetizers for the mind.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 23:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men watch porn but he should be able to get aroused by you without the porn at least some of the time. If he can only have sex with you if he has some porn action first that could indicate a problem. If it is just an extra thrill it is normal.
2006-12-22 22:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by LDR02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's 'normal' - but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he is going to cheat, either. But I think the fact he watches a lot of porn and more specifically right before you have sex , indicates that there is something wrong there. He might be bored or have some other issues going on - and none of that can be good for the health of your marriage.
Try to talk to him about it and/or get into counseling.
2006-12-22 22:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a clue that he has a sexual addiction. My ex did the same thing. I felt degraded and humiliated every time we had sex because I became less of a person and more of an object to him. He wouldn't get help but I did. It was one of the best things I could have done for myself. I learned that it wasn't me, or that I wasn't good enough, and that he had this addiction well before I came into the picture. I learned that I didn't cause it and that I couldn't cure it. I learned how to set very firm boundaries and stuck by them. I ended up leaving him because I refused to live like that and because he wouldn't or couldn't change. Good luck.
2006-12-22 22:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No worries. Most men do this and it's not a big deal. I repeat, not at all a big deal. boys will be boys, he gets himself ready for you, and seriously, porn has NOTHING to do with infidelity, nothing at all. It's like saying that violence on television is causing suicide bombing. Let him do this and sometimes watch it with him. It's really hilarious and a turn on.
Be happy, good luck,
2006-12-22 23:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is, that he can get addiction to porn,after watch every day.He try to be on with porn,and after have sex with you.You need to ask him why he need to watch porn.Good question.
2006-12-22 22:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. I think that a private and intimate relationship should only be between husband and wife and nobody else, Fantasizing is like having an additional partner in the relationship. Is that what YOU want? You may want to talk to him about what you think about threesomes.
2006-12-22 22:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by Canuck Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..
Porn & Cheating are not related..
Most men like porn..
Most women don't like porn..
However...
Women enjoy watching porn with their men while having a few drinks.....You pick the porn, you pick the drinks, invite him to
the party...
2006-12-22 22:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
naw- men are visual creatures, that is why that whole "looking" issue is always brought up-
They can not help themselves, seriously- it has been scientifically proven. Just get more movies that you might enjoy watching and make it a fun thing, but do not get made he does it by himself, gives him that feeling of... being a man and doing it "his way", his space so to speak
2006-12-22 22:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be a pastor at a church and cheat on you. He could hate porn and cheat on you. I mean really, are you that naive?
2006-12-22 22:53:19 · answer #11 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋