What would you do if the person you was married to for 15 years and you no longer loved each other in a romantic way ? yet you have 4 kids ? I am thinking about just being the bigger person moving out and leaving her everything , is this the right thing to do?
2006-12-22 14:43:24 · 19 answers · asked by Brian_Tc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you honestly can't make it work between the two of you to live in the same house, for the sake of your kids, then it would be remarkably bold of you to take that position to leave.
2006-12-22 14:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be happy. If you are not you cannot fake this no matter how much you try, first, attempt couple's counselling, but I have a feeling that you have thought this through and arrived to the conclusion that you have. We only live once. Your kids will always be your kids and just because their parents are no longer together does not mean you love them less as their dad. Talk to your wife, tell her everything, see if you can work this out. If not, divorce and move on. It's best for all involved.
good luck,
2006-12-22 22:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say no longer have a romantic relationship what do u mean? No sex or sex has no passion? If sex has no passion then I would try to do some crazy wild thoughts that you never thought you would even attempt..Maybe you both need something completely different..Im sure you have had lots of sex together...Role play that usually adds a lot when trying to make things feel new again...If there is no sex, u need to talk to her and tell her that you can not live you life this way..No one can! When you talk to her ask her what u can do to make her feel the best ever...Leave it open so that she can feel comfortable telling you anything..and whatever she says do it...you never know you might like it and if not she might get her sex drive back in the mean time...Now what I would like for my husband to do is take control and maybe while I am sleeping wake me up by going down on me...It might make her sences wake up...
Now if none of this helps then yes I would leave b/c if not you will be cheating on her on a regular basis and thats not fair to any one in the family.
2006-12-22 22:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by jennalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! That isnt being the bigger person, thats giving up! Have you tried working anything out? First try talking to eachother and finding out what the root of the problem is. And then when you have exhausted every resource possible, then consider a divorce. But dont just leave her with EVERYTHING. Split it evenly. There is no reason to just give it all away, unless you have done something wrong and plan on getting together with someone else right away....is that your plan?
2006-12-22 22:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by RonniBoBonny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "bigger person" ...Pullllllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeze. That is such bull-shyt! A bigger person would think of the kids. You're a phucing coward that's what you are, dumping all of your responsibility to look for a warm, wet, puss-ee. At least be a man and be honest!
So if you are unhappy, tell your wife and get some counseling together . . . unless you've already made the the decision to split.
2006-12-22 23:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, I would not leave, because if you change your mind, you don't have any rights, the person that leaves has a harder time getting things in the divorce. I would see about counseling first too, there was something there at one point maybe you could work it out.
Good Luck.
2006-12-22 22:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by wiltrk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you guys got married, you promised for better or for worse. i think you should help each other out. maybe you guys could just be more like friends. it's nice that you would leave her with everything, but what if she needs you? your kids need you. i think you should stay with her, even if you dont feel that you love her, i think you still might somewhere inside of you. i know that love isn't something that just goes away...see what she thinks about how you feel.
2006-12-22 22:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger thing to do would be to stay and work on the marriage. You loved her at one time, surely this can be awakened. Get some counseling and make a good try of it. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-22 22:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's romance you're missing, bring it back. Go away for the weekend, just the two of you and see if you still love each other. Spend time together talking to each other.
2006-12-22 23:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you done everything posible to save your marriage? Have you tried talking? tried dating her again? have your tried therapy? you say that you dont love her romantically, so one could assume that you still love her in some capacity.
You owe it to your 4 children to do everything posible to try and save the marriage. Once you have tried EVERYTHING, exhausted every avenue, then you can leave with a clear conscience.
My parents divorced 28 years ago and they have both said to me that they didnt do nearly enough to try and save their marriage and because of that my brother and I both have a bit of baggage.
2006-12-22 22:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋