By day my daughter is so nice. She plays and smiles and laughs with all members in my family. But at night, it's so terrible to me. I'm so exhausted. Because I live with my family(quite big), I can't stand her crying. My parents have to go to work every morning and my sister has to study .
2006-12-22 14:41:16 · 15 answers · asked by milkywoo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Ok...do you put her to bed and she cries and you go to her.....if so.......STOP....
She is doing it for attention only.......Do not go to her, I dont mind disregard....peek in on her...make sure she is ok...but do not let her see you. Yes this will be difficult, but babies learn very fast how to get your attention.
My son was like this at first..my pediatrician told me to let him cry for a few minutes..it will not hurt him. A rested mother and baby are best.
If you are not getting rest, then she is not either....you will both end up sick. It is not going to hurt her to cry a little, you have to show that you will not run everytime.....
It does not mean you dont love her, it is for her own good in the long run.
2006-12-22 14:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by mouse4211 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Along all the other suggestions, making sure she's dry, well fed before bed, well rested during the day...if she's overstimulated during the day, she might be confused as to why nothings going on at night. Making sure she's not too hot or too cold. Put a shirt you wore that day in bed with her so she can smell you and think she's not alone, especially if she's around a lot of people during the day, play some soft music, offer the dreaded pacifier, rock her, sing to her, swaddle her. So many things to try, but at 4 months, you can not spoil her, just be patient and calm with her. Try to find what works so you can get your rest too. Good Luck !
2006-12-22 23:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Liandrew00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some babies have a general "fussy time" of the day. It makes sense that your daughter's is at night; being she is tired from activity throughout the day.
Have you ever heard of Doctor Richard Karp? He created a book (an now popular DVD) called "Happiest Baby on the Block". He tells you several techniques to quiet and soothe a fussy baby without causing them emotional stress or hurt. I highly recommend it!
There is also a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution" which I've heard great things about. I say start there and see what happens.
There are so many possibilities. Colic, reflux, or simply her temperment. But its best to try one thing at a time and narrow down the possibilities.
2006-12-22 22:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mama2Fussy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can think to tell you is to comfort your daughter. At this age it's ok to spoil her with love and attention by holding her close, rocking her, humming, patting or rubbing the back. Make sure you stay calm, take deep breathes and be patient because she can sense it if you're angry or frustrated by your heart beat and breathing. If I remember correctly (from a childcare workshop) it's okay to let her cry for up to 5 minutes, while keeping an eye on her. I know this may seem horrible but if you need time to yourself, for whatever reason, it's better for you to do that than to get stressed out. You can even have someone else hold her if it's necessary. I hope this helps you out.
2006-12-22 22:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady404 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is 4 months old...She is going to be unsettled at night because she is a baby and needs to be in a routine...which she may not be...
I wouldnt ever reccomend putting a baby to sleep with you in bed, not only does it make for a hard habit to break as they get older, but the risk of suffocation is higher, not to mention thats mummy and daddy time...
Ok with that said, try controlled crying, I will post a site below that lists how to do it...Babies are not silly, if they know you will run to them every time they make a noise they will continue to make noise to get what they want, attention...
This method worked for me for my 2 kids and I will use it again this time.
2006-12-22 22:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's exhausted.
Did she take naps during the day?
Try to put her to sleep during the day too, so she won't be exhausted. Also, make sure she's not hungry and doesn't have a poopy diaper when she goes to bed at night.
When everything is set, I'd say create a "nighty night" environment and let her dooze off slowly.
2006-12-22 22:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by meetha 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here's one thing you might need to check out.
Your daughter might have an ear infection..
When shes up she's ok, but when she lays down she cries.
IF she has an ear infection, whats happening is when she lays down, the pressure in her ear starts to hurt..(the Fluid in the ear is having a hard time draining or it isn't draining at all).
Call the Dr. and explain and tell him/her that you'd like to bring her in for a check up.
Kids can have ear infections and you dont notice it because they all don't act the same way.
2006-12-22 23:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by iwish40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to bed with you, put on an easy baby friendly DVD, like one of the Barbie Dancing Princess ones, the soft music and easy pretty colors of the movie will help sooth her. If you're trying to sleep in the dark, put in a night light on her side of the bed. Congrats on your baby.
2006-12-22 22:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get her on a better schedule so right before bedtime play with her alot to keep her awake and active so she is sleepy and also make sure she feed swell before she goes night night maybe add cereal in that bottle so she is full all night.
2006-12-22 22:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is only 4 months old....................thats what babies do!
If she wakes feed her and put her back to bed ......................yes u might be exhausted but thats what happens when you become a mum!!
She just needs to settle into a routine, and that could still be a few months off......get used to it ....once you become a mum .....ya never get to sleep through the night again!!!.......
If your family is as big as you say ...maybe its all the excitement going on in the household............you should consider getting your own place?
2006-12-22 23:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u holding her all day so she thinks she needs to be held all night? also what is her daytime sleeping schedule like. ask your doctor how often a 4mo sleep usually in the day and see if she has her days and nights mixed up.
2006-12-22 22:51:47 · answer #11 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋