my husband is mommies boy which he denies but it is only obvious. she has done so much things to try to ruin us is ridiculous but now she went to far. my husband has a sister too and she has a child and so do we but since my mother n law doesnt like me she treats my daughter unfair too at first i didnt really want to see it that way, i would say "oh no she would do this to her sons daughter" but sure enough she does. like xmas she sends my daughter maybe 2 gifts or 3 and then sends her daughters childs hand me downs (which i appreciate it) then shell brag and how much stuff she bought my husbands sister daughter. when i try to confront her about the situation she uses an excuse of saying that we live to far and my husband doesnt think it is wrong. am i being selfish or is this just aint right that my daughter gets cheated just because she doesnt approve of me?
2006-12-22 14:25:53 · 9 answers · asked by tori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you love someone (like your mom for example) sometimes you are blinded to their faults. It's easy for you to see these things because you are outside of the picture looking in.
2006-12-22 14:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 I think you should think very seriously about contacting Dr Phil. He gets into this stuff all the time.
#2 You also need to be very aware that this IS "momma's boy".
#3 and if your husband isn't going to back you up to his mommy, then you are liable to be on your own in many other ways. I'd say tell him "shape up" or hit the road.
#4 If he's acting this way now, you have no clue when it's "clutch time" and he's not going to be there for you.
Face it; your mo-in-law is PETTY as hell, and she's not accepting the woman her son married. I had a similar situation with my ex-. Her parents could do no wrong, and now I'm a divorced father of a son who doesn't want to hear it. He got sick of hearing my side, and when he graduated high school this past June, he said "to hell with both of you" and took off and joined the Army and now lives in another state.
This can only get worse if you don't do something pro-active.
Good luck!! (You're going to need it.)
Tonto (me) sees a divorce on your horizon!
2006-12-22 14:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by John1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason your husband thinks everything his mother does is okay is cause ITS HIS MOM. youd probably be the same way unless you have a terrible relationship with your mother. dont worry about it and let her be like that. obviously it will come back to her and one day your child will be telling her kids about how awful of a grandmother she had when she was a child. dont worry about it. right now it seems like a big deal but just let her be an awful grandmother so your daughter can see that and know what not to be like when shes a grandmother. shes acting immature and if she wants to thats okay cause sometimes you learn a little from people like that--to never be like them. i hope everything works out.
2006-12-22 14:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you are better than your mother in law.She will never change,and maybe she does these things even more because she likes to up set you.And she will still be the mother of your husband whether you like it or not.She also might be jealous of you,and just likes to make your life hard.As far as the things that she gives your children,remember they are just things.and the best things you can give your children is yourself and your love. Don't show her that she upsets you.Just laugh it off,you will have the last laugh in the end.
2006-12-22 14:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by knightrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets SEE. ABOUT THE MOMMYS BOY. SO. a DAUGHTER IS A DAUGHTER UNTIL SEE TAKES A HUSBAND, A SON A SON ALL HIS LIFE EVEN WITH A WIFE.
there IS SOMETHING ABOUT SONS AND MOTHERS THEY CLEAVE TO THERE MOMMIES ALL THERE LIFE MY HUSBAND IS AN INDEPENDENT MAN . A MANLY MAN ALWAYS,62 AND HAS ALWAYS CALLED HIS MOMMIE 2 OR THREE TIMES A WEEK ALL HIS LIFE. STILL. I AM NOT THREATENED BY HER, BECAUSE I HAVE HAD HIM FOR 30 YEARS YOU SEE. HE COMES HOME TO ME LOVES ME AND CLEAVES TO ME, AND I WOULD NOT THINK OF INTERFERING IN THERE RELATIONSHIP.
SO NEVER BE JOULOSE OF IT. WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ARE OLDER YOU WILL UNDERSTAND THAT. TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS. I JUST HOPE PEOPLE THINK OF ME AS A MOMMIES GIRL. , I KNOW I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL,
2006-12-22 14:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by pamcb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just doing that cause he's a momma's boy!Guy's are alway protective with there momma's.Don't let her get to you and she's just doing it to get on your nerves.Count to 10 and breath and you'll be fine.And if she still does it don't buy her christmas present and if she say's anything just say that she live's too far away!Sweet Revenge!
2006-12-22 14:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by brettbear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only one with a problem is you, why do you want to compare who gets what. please grow up from expierence the only person you will end up hurting is your self and make your daughter hate her grandparents because of you. please dont do that to you and you daughter. as a grandmother, there is aways a reason for what we do.
2006-12-22 14:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by c504play 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong but just be thankful that you don't live close to her.
2006-12-22 14:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CAUSE ITS HIS MOM
2006-12-22 14:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by tatersma1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋