MY HUSBAND MARRIED ME AND I ALREADY HAD 3 KIDS WE HAVE 1 TOGETHER AND NOW I CANT HAVE ANYMORE CHILDREN. HIS MOM THINKS HE IS YOUNG AND SHE BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN GIVE HIM LOTS OF KIDS, SHE ALSO SAYS THAT HOW CAN HE RAISE KIDS THAT ARENT HIS.
2006-12-22 13:38:11 · 12 answers · asked by tori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are married to him not his mother
2006-12-22 13:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is mourning the loss of something she wanted for him and cannot accept that he made his own decision. She has been able to influence or manipulate him in the past I bet and believes if she applies enough pressure he will see things her way. He needs to tell her that he has made his decision and that he is raising kids that aren't his because he loves his wife and he is a good man. And if him being a good person isn't enough for her to be proud of him than that's her issue that maybe she needs to get worked out in therapy or a self help book. Until she works this out no more talk of it should be allowed. But this must come from him if it comes from you she will twist it around to her advantage. Try to tell him how much you love and admire him for being a father and a husband instead of getting defensive try sitting on his lap in front of her or licking his ear in front of her I bet the pull to the dark side of mother fades pretty fast when he realizes that the benefits and perks of being a MAN in the "right" life are with his Wife and NOT with his mother.
2006-12-22 21:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by WW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question without being sarcastic would be extremly hard,Tell your husband to let his mother know that he didn't marry her(mother)he married you..If he is happy with you and the chilren that is the most important aspect.Tell his mama to butt out.If she truly wants somthing to do and say ask her if she would like to help you raise those children?Your mother-in-law ain't the problem.Tell your husband to be a man and let his mother know also that you are his wife and she should be happy he has somone like you.OH that angers me Royally when people have so much to say but aren't going to help but only try to hinder.Ignore that women and live your life.
2006-12-22 21:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law is probably concerned that her son does not make enough money to support all of you. Just be the best wife you can be, and she will probably come around. Just be patient.If she does not understand how someone can raise children that are not his, she needs to look inside her own heart and try to find some compassion.
2006-12-22 21:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obviously that she is the one with the issue. Your husband loves you and your kids, his or not, and he sounds like an amazing guy! Age is NOTHING but a number and an excuse for a lot of people so that is no reason for him to not be with you. I would flat out ask her what her problem is and if it continues have your hubby stick up for you and his family.
2006-12-22 21:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we cannot know for sure without asking her but i can speculate that while she enjoyed raising her children she has also percieved some of the challenges inherit in mixed families and step children. like all good mothers she wants the best for her son and her perception is that you are not best for her son. the good news is that your husband's opinion is the one that matters. be sensitve to his struggles in the raising of all of the children and be sure to ask him about those challenges from time to time. it will help him if he realizes that you know he is in a hard position and it will help him even more to know you care about his trials
2006-12-22 21:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hse sounds liek one of the bad ones lol in this case no one will ever be good enough for her son dont take any of it to heart sjut tae it with a grain of salt and move on im sure if u were younger and no ids she would be the exact same way its jsut her way of not beeing albe to let go of him
2006-12-22 22:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by bussty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is probably reallt old fashion and giving him a bunch of kids try adoption or fostering we don't need anymore kids when there are so many who need a family. and he can easly raise kids who aren't his as long as he treats them like they r
2006-12-22 21:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can imagine your situation. Quite annoying...especially if the hubby is a 'Mommy's son' (I hope not). Fortify your defenses but avoid a 'fight'. I can't be specific, but you need to strategize by showing that you know more than her.
2006-12-22 22:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Willie Boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws sometimes meddle in their kids lives...You two however do not have to let it cause you problems...
2006-12-22 21:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋