My husband thinks I complain too much when I have to walk around and I am 8 months pregnant and he doesnt understand why my back and feet hurt.
2006-12-22 13:19:07 · 19 answers · asked by True Lady 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell him to git in there and make dinner or scrub the toilet and quit his bellyaching. He helped create this so he needs to bear with it one more month or so.
2006-12-22 13:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will never truly understand what a woman goes through. Just try and be the mature minded woman you are and realise that they'll never understand fatigue and pain like we will. Try giving his nipple a little pinch and watch him cower in pain..lol
They can be so inconsiderate because they don't know better.
Also, most men are more critical first time around..just wait til you want him to change diapers and he pretends that he can't stomach it, or pretends to sleep through the crying baby through the night.
Take pride in being the mother and sole provider. You will feel great pride watching your child grow..knowing you've done all you can to help this child and that you never backed down once.
My husband is a changed man now, lol, but i remember when i first had my baby(who's is now 2.5) I had a long hard day of a crying baby that wouldn't burp or sleep or calm or whatever...sitting on the couch breastfeeding, trying to get my own rest..etc, and he'd come home from work and say "Oh my, what did you do all day??" Haha. it's funny how they don't realise what's involved until they are put in the position. Take breaks out as often as you can. With and without your husband. Alone time with friends helps keep you sane early on(if this is your first).
Good luck and congrats on the bebe!
2006-12-22 21:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 8 mos. pregnant and not only does my back and feet hurt, but my mobility is limited and I am very crampy and irritated. YES, it is VERY hard being pregnant--men don't understand the physical and emotional aspect of it, the changes can be overwhelming and scary at the same time. When my husband starts telling me how much I nag, I tell him he can carry the baby in his belly any day! Men aren't usually that sympathetic, but make it a point to let your husband know that it's not a walk in the park and the least he can do is listen to you.
2006-12-23 02:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre man should be there to support you adn ask, "Honey, how can I help you!? Geez, how is he going to be when the baby is born!!!?
Take him to the doctor visit with you on a checkup and so he can get a medical standpoint. Ask your doctor what he and you can do to try to relieve your pain etc.
Every pregnancy is different and yes, it can be very difficult.
Definitly buy some comfortable shoes, adn slippers to wear around the house and when you go out. something real cushiony. I bought sketchers. they were heaven on my sore feet!
Get him involved to support a healthy pregnancy adn relationship! He doesnt have to understand but he does ahve to sympathize and try to make you comfortable and realize this is a fact, not an act. I also bought a maternal belt to help with my lower back pain
Get him and you both around people that support you r pregnancy and you maybe through them he will /can see what it takes?
2006-12-22 23:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be really hard being pregnant. I am 4 months right now and already hate walking around. Remind him that his manliness isn't tough enough to carry a baby, so he could never understand what you are going through.
2006-12-22 21:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Steph R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello my partner is the same I'm only 23 weeks right now and its my first and i never realised how much work it is to be pregnant so maybe give him a fue bags of potato's to carry around and see how much he complains.
2006-12-22 23:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him, he should understand. If he is not capable of believing you when you say you are in extreme/moderate/mild discomfort, then that is not a good sign.
Or, you could figure out what % of your body weight you are now carrying and have him carry that %. See how long he lasts before he wants to put it down because it is hurting his back.
2006-12-22 21:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by ssc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your idiot husband to shut up and rub your feet. To do something for YOU instead of YOU having to do for him. He can't have the baby, so he needs to make sure you have everything you need to be comfortable.
And be glad. My wife vomited about 4-6 times a day throughout her pregnancy...so yes, pregnancy can be VERY hard on you.
Congratulations on your new addition!!
2006-12-22 21:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are carrying another person around inside you is a heavy responsibility. You are entitled to groan a bit. My mum had nine of us so think of her.She never complained. Men ask us to feel sorry for them when they are sick so they should respond accordingly.
2006-12-22 21:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that he hang around with throbbing leg cramps, a bulging belly, heartburn that might burn through his chest, back ache, and a rude spouse who doesn't attempt to sympathise with the person carrying their child.
2006-12-22 22:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋