my husband has a history of things that arent good. It started years ago he would leave and say he would be right back i wouldnt see him till 2am. recently he has come home twice smelling of perfume. he stayed out all night had girls hanging around him at his job riding in our company van used false names to theese girls lied to be about calls to and from them. phone records prove different. when i called the girls they said they got with my man. he has a history of looking at porn. He dinied it all siad it just looks bad. its all about perception! i forgave him he promised to never do anything that would hurt me like that again. well 3 days ago i came across his my space giving some girl a sexy comment i freaked out said it was over the following to days all he did was hunt down girls on the computer had covos with them telling them he wants to wine and dine then and has giving out a friend of your cell phone number for the girls to call him. he dont lokk if you dont w/t hurt
2006-12-22 13:18:02 · 20 answers · asked by lucky 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well are you ready to let him go? Because i can't see staying in any relationship if he makes you feel that way.
2006-12-22 13:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by All yours 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to boot him out. He is doing nothing by lying to you and trying to get with other women. You could never trust him again and would always wonder what he is up to.
You certainly deserve better than that. You have given him enough chances and all he does is use your trust to go out and do it again.
Imagine how happy you will be when you no longer have to worry about him. You can do what ever you want and not think about if he is coming home or not. You won't have to worry about who he is chatting to on the computer because he is out of your life.
2006-12-22 13:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but I think he is cheating on you, been there done that. I really don't know your whole situation, but my advice is... if he is willing to work on the relationship and get professional help, then you are in good luck. Some people just like the attention they get, they just want to feel wanted by the opposite sex even though they do not follow through with it. Talk to him about it, and you may come up with a conclusion.
2006-12-22 14:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Monica V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he's playing you for a fool. I really hope you don't have kids together. If you do, is THIS the example you want to set for them to see as how a man should act as a husband and a father? Do you want your boys to grow up to be like him? Do you want your girls to grow up to be played like you are? Is this the same treatment you hope for them in their marriages? If not, it's not good enough for you either. You are worth more than that!
If you are single, you should have left a L O N G time ago. This man is not worth your love or your energy. Let him go and get on with your life.
God bless you!
2006-12-22 13:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I would run and never look back. It sounds like you got a bad apple. And as much as I would love to believe that anyone can change the probability of a man like that changing is slim to none. You have done your time...get out and get on your feet. Be independent for awhile. Learn how to not lean on a man's companionship. I will pray for your strength! Good luck!
2006-12-22 13:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by snowangel101224 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just one question? Why are you still with this guy? Hon, you must just loooovvvvvveeeeee abuse, and in your place with this complaint, think I'd be seeking some counseling to try to figure out why I think no one else would want me. Is there anything else he could do to you and you'd still stay?? It looks like he is an absolute jerk, and you're still taking it-----You must just love it because it looks like this guy has done it all, and just smeared your face in it. Either this is a joke, or hon, you need some serious help in the mental area.
2006-12-22 13:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, I am certain you deserve more than this dude is giving you. I know it is hard to get out of a relationship, but I know if you do it, you will soon realize it is the best thing you ever did. There is no way you trust this guy, and trust is the foundation of a good relationship! Dump this loser now!
2006-12-22 14:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by zahira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its like whatever one says once a cheater always a cheater you dont need him pulling you down in life thats scanless i dont see why men have girlfriends if they still want to mess with others they should just stay single inside of letting them self get caught up in all this drama. hes a bastard leave his *** and especially looking at porn wtf sounds desperate when he can get all that and more from you. its all really on you leave or deal with it. i know people who will deal with it in there way as in #@cking him over back i know it sounds wrong and yeah two wrongs dont make a right but maybe if you give him a little of his medicine lets see how he'll react. i dont know let me know what you decide to do if possible...
2006-12-22 13:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're comfortable with him then you truly might want to verify with him and enable him recognize how you experience. i'd draw the line right here. in order that as that if issues do not exercising consultation then it truly is a lot less time waisted. i'm not declaring hes doing something incorrect. yet basically basically be particular you recognize the position you stand previously going any extra,
2016-10-16 21:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he's doing it because you are letting him.... he will never stop, and I know how it is when you really want to believe in your husband, but he is consistantly showing you he will never change, it will get worse.... You need to leave him or kick him out.. which ever, maybe he will realize you are serious about this... but then it will be to late... you can do better.. don't subject yourself to that.. he is perverted and it will not stop... good luck
2006-12-22 13:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the time comes and you have had enough. I promise you that. Only you will know.
I suggest to you to look deep into your soul and once you have truly had enough and once again you will know. You will leave and never look back. Only a few times you might look back, but only to ask yourself why did you stay as long as you did.
I KNOW . I PROMISE I KNOW
2006-12-22 13:30:46 · answer #11 · answered by young at heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋