he spends all of our money on booze is out all weekend never calls i have 3 young children and am 22 he is 34 you think he would be more mature any suggestions please
2006-12-22 13:13:23 · 18 answers · asked by subbysbaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been there. I wasted fifteen years married to a drunk. He was at least a good provided which doesn't seem to be the case with you. However, his drinking was more important to him then we were. I would threaten to leave all that did was make him hide it. They never quit you either live with it or you leave. I left. Good Luck to you in whatever decision you make. Just remember there is more to life than living with a drunk.
2006-12-22 13:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Redhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have no family or friends that you can "escape" to, then go to a woman's shelter. Seek assistance for placement and job. It may be very hard in the beginning but if you are leaving with a drunk what kind of life is that for you and your kids? Do you want your kids to follow his steps? Also, check with local churches (notice the plural).
You do not mention if he has tried rehab and counseling. If he spends all your family budget on booze, when there is no more money, he will start selling your possessions and/or stealing to keep up his habit. Get a divorce and get out of that relationship ASAP!!!
2006-12-22 13:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by nowhere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tried going to an al-anon meeting? They are for family members of people with alcohol problems. They are very good at helping you sort out the situation. The meetings are free and are held all times during the day and evening. If you can not attend the meetings they have counselors to help you over the phone. You should be able to find a meeting listed in the newspapers classified ads or just look in the phone book. You can also do a web search for them. www.alanon.org.za
2006-12-22 14:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by themermaidgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you should put a demand on the situation because if you don't get a handle on it now you never will....Tell him either he stops spending the money and stays home more often or you will leave...your children don't need to see you depressed or crying because it hurts them too...if you let your children see a man treating you this way they will grow up thinking that it is right and let a man walk all over them if they are girls or treat their spouse the same way if they are boys. Don't think about your wants and needs, put your children in the front of this situation and do whats best for them...good luck
2006-12-22 13:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to get some counseling to get out of this relationship. Your children don't need to see daddy drunk all the time. You and your children need stability, support, respect and food on that table. So give yourself and your children the best christmas gift you can get help getting out. If he really wants his family back he will check into rehab, clean up his act and then work hard(for a while) to get back on his feet and honor his responsibilities.
2006-12-22 13:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. He obviously needs a wake up call, or a really good treatment center. Your too young to live the rest of your life wondering if your husband is going to come home or not. Pack up the kids and go stay with your mom or a friend. This guy doesnt respect you.
2006-12-22 13:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever talked to him? If you did and he just doesn't change, I suggest you start a new life. You are still very young. Take care and God Bless You.
2006-12-22 13:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for you to leave him. You have three young children to worry about, and your not his mother. You don't have time to be constantly having to worry about where your money is going, and where he is. You don't deserve to be put in this position.
2006-12-22 13:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by steffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN YOUR YOUNG AND TO HAVE SOMEONE DRINK ALL THE TIME SUCKS,
I KNOW SOMEONES MAN WHO DOES THE SAME AND HE WOULD ALWAYS BE GONE EVERY WEEKEND GETTING TORE UP HE STARTED BECOMING ABUSIVE AND THEN HE STARTED PAWNING STUFF JUST TO GET DRUNK.
I THINK HE NEEDS HELP NOT ONLY FOR HIMSELF BUT FOR THE SAKE OF YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN IF HE DOESNT WANT TO HELP HIMSELF THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM.
2006-12-22 13:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by tori 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE needs help and if he wont get it then its time for you to move on. Because your life will always be like this. Good luck to you and your kids
2006-12-22 13:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋