Last night my husbans and I went out to the mall to get some last miniute gifts for his family. I have a lready shopped for my family meaning my mom and dad and 4 sisters and also a few gifts for my mother in law. My mother in law has been divorced from my husbands father for over 14 years so my husband called and asked his mothers advice as to what to get his grandmother on his fathers side for christmas (she knows his grandmother very well they were close for many years) she gave some sugestions and asked where he was and he proceeded to tell her that her was shopping for hi s grandma and also his father and his father wife. Everything was ok and then he told her that the store that she requested a gift certificate was not in that mall and that becuase it was last miniute he may not be able to get it and he might just have to give cash. She flipped out and said you made an effort to get everyone elses gift and put the thought into them but not me. Ohh I don't want cash if you give me
2006-12-22 13:13:08 · 9 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
cash I will be so upset at you. My husband was like no mom I wont do that to you don't worry. I was like that is so rude I have already spent alot of money on her how could she be so selfish. The reason my husband waited so long is because he has a landscape buisness just starting out so money isn't as reliable he is not getting a set paycheck everyweek she knew this too. Do you think she is selfish? What do you think of this situation as I am feeling right now I don't think she deserves anything I am ready to take her gifts back but I know this is not the answer. This is not the first time she has acted like this. I don't know what to do she is coming between our new mariage
2006-12-22 13:17:34 · update #1
Sounds like none of you understand that gifts can be non-tangible.
Next year, give her some attention.
2006-12-22 13:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Minmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she doesn't realize that you had already gotten her several gifts. It sounds like she has the potential to be a difficult person. Christmas is a good time to choose your battles. Give her a hug and tell her that you appreciate her, and while the gifts you already got her aren't what she asked for, you hope she likes them. She's just either hurt or jealous about the relationship your hubby has with his dad and either way that's not your problem. There's nothing you can do about the kind of person she is, but you can control the way you react and respond to her. Don't let her interfere in your holidays or your marriage. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 16:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It was probably rude of her, but consider this: there are a lot of years ahead of you with her as a mother in law. Do you really want to spend these years in a feuding mood. Maybe a great gift to your new husband would be your silence and understanding. He probably agrees with you, but is stuck between a rock and a hard place. You would probably never say anything like she said, so don't be like her and keep your words and your dignity and I wish you a Happy Holidays.
2006-12-22 13:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by manibal_mf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this was rude on your mother-in-laws part to say what she said. But I do not think your husband should have told her now that he was getting her cash, because he would not be able to get what he wanted. I think that he should have pick up a card and enclosed the money. I think on both sides a scene was made.
2006-12-22 13:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not rude. Just sounds like your hubby hurt her feelings. Here he is, telling her that he's out shopping for his father's wife, and maybe he can't get across town to get her a gift certificate.
I'd be wounded by that. "New wife gets something, but not me."
Calm down, and think it out. Look at it from her side.
2006-12-22 16:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitly. She thinks you tryed your best and now she's mad at you. You did a last minute gift and she should appriecieated that you spent your money on a gift card.
2006-12-23 01:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Amalahbambah Redsoxgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was rude of her. Just give her the gifts you have already purchased and don't say another word about it.
2006-12-22 14:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ceci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rude, christmas isnt about gifts//money, its about jesus and family and peace and love, and friends
2006-12-22 13:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by alexmackbooks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do and I would get her a card and write in it that she did NOT want cash,so this is the only thing she is getting, I feel she is being selfish and childish
2006-12-22 13:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋