What do i do?

Question

Broke up with a man 25 yrs ago as he couldnt take commitment,got in touch 5 yrs ago, met 2 yrs ago,felt very strongly, resumed e mails,we both live oceans apart but all of a sudden, he sounded very pissed off at me for calling,felt i was needy and now has stopped communication. i dont call very often, maybe 2 times a mth. I am married to another and he knows there is no question of a divorce so i am not about to end up at his doorstep nor does he wants marraige.I am hurt beyond belief. I thought that after loosing me once, he would want to keep the friendship.what do i do?

Answer 1

You have no right to be pissed off. You have stepped outside of your marriage and had what is called an "emotional affair". You should have not rekindled anything with a past flame. The past is just that. If you hadn't been in contact with this person while you are married, then you wouldn't be on this emotional rollercoaster.....What goes around comes back around!

Answer 2

Living oceans apart is still no reason to brew up a past relationship with a ex. It is not fair to him nor you. Unless you intend to leave and you said your not.
Why should he continue to talk with you if he has no future with you.
after 20 yrs of no contact then a phone call every 6 mths to a year would be enough.
I say let it go and focus on your marriage.

Answer 3

In all honesty unless your husband knows about your friendship with this other man, what you did was wrong as it is a form of cheating. Perhaps this man realised that or perhaps he is really married himself and you have put him in an awkward position. You must have given him the wrong idea or he would not have said that you sounded needy. If l was you l would leave it alone. Forget about this other man as you have a husband of your own to love and think about. Best wishes and Merry Xmas.

Answer 4

he doesn't deserve your friendship or even your time thinking about him. keep your mind busy by your husband after all he is the one who made commitment to you and loved you not that other guy who left you, live his life and now he's back for some fun, believe it he will go away again whenever he get a chance to have fun.
he love him self too much, too selfish, no commitment to ant body but him self and his pleasure. do you really think some one like him will care what might happen to you or your life if your husband knows?
let me answer you " no, he doesn't care, he didn't 25 years ago what's gonna make him now?! "
i am sorry to tell you this but you have to close that door forever

Answer 5

I would let some time pass then maybe write him a letter explaining yourposition and your expectations. He may just want whatever was going on to end, if that is the case respectfully thank him for his time and leave him be. There are far too many people in this world to get to know to worry about just one.

Answer 6

Take the hint and move on. maybe it is a good thing you live oceans apart. Spend more time working on your marrige and forget him. you wouldn't workout even if you were together.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, he's not worth the effort. Sometimes people just don't want to stay friends. It's time to move on.

Answer 8

obviously he was hoping for more and instead of accepting that and saying that it was best for you not be in touch anymore he decided to be cruel. let it be if he comes out of the woodwork again, tell him you are not interested in continuing a friendship with him.

Answer 9

Good, you got what you deserve. HELLO!!!! You're married, what do you care if he doesn't want to be your friend anymore? Get over it and start worrying more about your husband.

Answer 10

Why would you want to have a friendship with an ex when you are happily married.
If your husband wanted to call one of his exs would you be ok with that?