He's been my friend before I even met my ex. He was still myfriend when I got pregnant and always understands when I have to cancel something due to my daughter. He wears eyeliner,eyeshadow,girl jeans and brushes his hair over one eye. Plus he is white. My parents are strictly against me going with anyone against my race. He is my BEST friend. What should I do?
2006-12-22 12:58:02 · 16 answers · asked by 13 year old girl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That and they hate his taste in clothing.
BTW I'm black.
2006-12-22 13:01:28 · update #1
I said he was 16? My bad.
2006-12-23 10:45:56 · update #2
OK...so assuming he's not gay, I've been there. I know some kids where makeup (guys) and they aren't gay and they think it's cool and gothic. I used to date those guys. As for gay guys...I've dated a guy who is now gay and everyone thought was gay (except me). Anywho...it seems that if he is NOT gay then he would've made a move by now. Some guys are really great and only want to be friends. I think if anything, you should just ask him...but then again, that can actually backfire.
About being a mother, you need to think about what's best for your child. I know this sounds harsh, but is he really the best role model for your child. You're probably going to be pissed about me making that comment, but you will get older and realize what I'm talking about one day...I've been there and done that and I know exactly what it feels like and think "never me."
Really consider what is best for your child. Is being in a relationship with anyone/him good RIGHT NOW? Is dating someone against your race good right now...meaning, are your parents supporting you? If they are, I suggest NOT getting on their bad sides. My parents help me out more than I can admit and there are things you have to deal with (even if they seem unfair or unethical) but you HAVE to...because it's best for you child at the time being. Way all your options.
2006-12-22 13:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're more worried about someone else's race than their 13 y.o. daughter having a new infant and is already pregnant AGAIN?! Your parents need to get smacked by social services and re-evaluate their approach to raising you. I would just worry about taking care of your own baby daughter, getting your ex in jail (I read your other questions), and keeping your legs closed! Keep being friends with this guy though.
Edit: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqLvYSTbIh48iCk2UCcX0fLsy6IX?qid=20061118135444AAWiLRq Your parents prejudice hasn't stopped you before. And why in question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As4ic2o0GTUWCMQc5hv2vSXsy6IX?qid=20061121190253AAGN3Jh you say your boyfriend is 16, then here http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoEWv1wk9gk_4qZ532cv3B_sy6IX?qid=20061208141814AATxnJg , he's 14? Either way, stay away from this creep and keep you and your baby safe.
2006-12-23 15:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Up an Evolutionary Tree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful, u will get hurt if he is gay if he is gay he is the best friend u can have 4 a guy, they are so much fun and u know he wont want sex from u . tell ur parents u are best friends and color dont matter we all bleed the same color of blood. its whats on the inside that matters.
2006-12-23 10:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be proud of being a teenage mom, All your peers are going to be laughing at you and plus you get to have no more fun.
Talk to him and tell him you like him but I doubt he will want you since he sounds gay and you have a child
2006-12-22 22:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first if you like him them go for it you r parents will get over it every one will go through this in ther life time ... bbbb the way race doesnt matter at least to me who gives a crap what color he is your parnets need to settle down and and understand what there daughter likes and respect that
2006-12-22 23:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by OWZOR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. your parents cannot control your emotions. Its understandable that your parents would want you to marry the same race... but if you really love him then you love him. nobody else can change that.
2006-12-22 23:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well are you going to let your parents rule your life. i say if you really like him that much go for it. tell your parents that you respect their decisions but you need to make your own choices in life and the person that you date should be one of those choices.
2006-12-22 21:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by soul_grace_555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why is ur pisture white? and why shouldn't u go out with him? just tell ur parents that u like him alot, and u wanna go out. u had a kid, so u can probably tlak to ur parents about that
2006-12-23 16:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by H A N N A H(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you kinda seem like you didnt care what your parents said if you got pregnant AT 13!...but this guy sounds like he needs to come out of the closet
2006-12-22 21:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lacey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's not goth, he's not gay, he's emo.
Just go out with him. Follow your feelings and listen to what your heart says. The world is running out of room for racists.
2006-12-23 00:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋