So I have already established my husband is an a$$, but we are financially strapped and my family pitched in to help give nice x-mas to kids, and he is not the least bit greatful. Seems bitter. What the F*(C?
2006-12-22 12:53:38 · 9 answers · asked by WUDDALIFE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
JUST SMACK HIM UPSIDE THE HEAD. YOU BE DAMM GRATEFUL. GOT IT !
GOOD, NOW WE UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER. I LIKE YOU, DEAR.
2006-12-22 12:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by baddog 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he feels like a failure. Instead of fessing up and saying so, he'll refuse to show his greatfulness. My friend's brother did the same thing a few years back. She gave his wife some money to buy the kids a few gifts and he spent it on bills instead. He said the kids didn't need christmas. finally she and his wife told him he could sit a wallow in self pity on christmas but they would not and he could join them at his sister's house if he wished and the jerk stayed home.
2006-12-22 21:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are at. Your family is very kind to have chipped in so that you can give your child or children a nice christmas, but you have to understand that as a man this probably bothers him. This effects his self esteem in the sense that he may feel he isnt taking care of his family good enough. It's an ego thing.
2006-12-22 20:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Diane S. has it right. He probably feels inadequate and can't tell you. He's ashamed that he was not able to provide these things himself. He is feeling emasculated by the fact your parents did this.
This is HIS problem. Your children and your parents deserve their Christmas happiness do not ruin it by catering to your self centered husband. His behavior is childish.
2006-12-22 21:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probaby feels like a failure since he couldn't provide his own family with a nice christmas. it is normal for parents to feel this way. you are both very lucky to have family that cares enough for you to pitch in when times are tough. try seeing things from his point of view.....
2006-12-22 20:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greatful? You just made him feel like he couldn't provide for his family and you want him to thank you for it? I can understand your point but don't ask him to be thankful for a kick to the gut honey. It's just to much to ask of a man.
2006-12-22 21:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jennifer is right my dear. we males have pride. and to some of us, it is the only thing left. like your husband, he must feel very depressed knowing that he failed as a provider and the last thing he need is a bruised ego. talk to him. make him understand that it is for the kids and no harm intended for his ego. ;-) *wink*
2006-12-22 21:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Grimalkin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy needs to wake up!!
maybe if he got off his *** you wouldn't need financial assistance!!
shouldn't kids take priority over pride?
don't you wish it was easier to just leave?!
2006-12-22 21:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by faststang71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is feeling like he let the family down and can't say it or show it.....why don't you try talking to him like a loving wife and see what he is really feeling.....
2006-12-22 20:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋