I am 37 weeks and 3 days pregnant...with my second child...I was wondering (from all of your experiences with the length of your labor of a second child)... When is a good time to call people and give them the heads up? And, also I do not want my mother there until after the baby is born..so what should I tell her when I call her, so that she is not mad that I didn't call her before...but I called other people?
2006-12-22 12:52:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My 1st pregnancy...I was 16 yrs old.. my mother took control of everyone..and invited 9 people...NINE!!! ....and when I said I didn't want someone there...she's like well you don't know what you want...and you owe me for getting pregnant at 16...and my mom is the type to get insanely jealous of the other grandma...she doesn't know when to keep quiet...and she makes both me fiance and I very uncomfortable...bottom line she's a *****....that I myself don't want anything to do with...and really don't want my kids around much...But, I want to be at least fair and give her the chance to see her grandchild....
2006-12-22 13:00:20 · update #1
Oh yes...BTW...If I was to call my mom like shortly before the baby is born...and tell her I do not want her up there...then she'd come anyway...and bring her new husband...her new husband is a nice guy and all...but in this situation I would be uncomfortable to have him there...and I don't want to offend my mom by saying he can't be there..
2006-12-22 13:04:17 · update #2
It really depends on how the labor is progressing and whether or not u get induced. my second babys delivery went pretty quick and I didnt really have time to call anyone. But sometimes and can be hours before its time to push even with the second child. I suggest when U go into labor if u do call them after the doc checks you so he can let u know how many centimeters u are dialated. that will give u some idea of how much longer it should be. If they have to induce u then the second time around is very quick and u should call them as soon as they start the induction. Call her after the others were called but when u are soo close to pushing and let her know that u are still in labor with a few more hours left to go and that she doesnt need to come until a certain time. when she shows up and sees everyone else there just tell her that when u called them u told them the same thing but they rushed over anyways and waited in the waiting room. This should be ok. Good Luck!
2006-12-22 13:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my third and last labor was the longest of them all so there is really no way to "guess" how long your labor will be or to assume that it will be shorter this time... your mother is going to find out you called other people so i think she can assume you didnt want to call her.. probably a better idea to explain to her now why you dont want her there, or say you and your husband just want to have the moment alone.
2006-12-22 20:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mina222 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let both the mothers in with me and my husband with our first child. They both wanted to be there so badly and at the time I didn't give a ...well, you know :)
This time. We are requesting no one else with us. It's our own personal time. We don't wanna be rude, but they are being rude for wanting to intrude on our own times. PLUS it was a little embarrassing have the extra two sets of eyes. NEver again! :)
2006-12-22 20:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the ppl u want with u in the labour. call every1 once baby is born
2006-12-22 20:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by ce_ben1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just wait till after the baby is born and then deal with it
2006-12-22 20:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by 4 Shades of Blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is your second why not do what you did before?
2006-12-22 20:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋