i am pregnet and i have not told my hubby and i don't know how it is my first and i am so scared because he does not want kids.
PlEASE hELp Me
2006-12-22 12:44:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
"Hi sweetie, im pregnant." "Oh your kinda upset, interesting becuase you married me knowing id want kids, too bad for you" LOL no id just sit him down and tell him that your pregnant and well you want to keep it, your a married couple and thats what married couples do they raise familes together. If he didnt want kids he shouldnt have married someone who wanted them. Unless you never discussed this, if you never have then your relationship has more problems then this.
2006-12-22 12:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you cant tell him on his face, then go out for some work and tell him on phone or write him a letter and let him be with himself for some time to let him have a good think about it.
Its a difficult decission to make and sometimes you dont realise that you actully wanted a baby. So i guess he could be happy to know about it.
I thought my husband was not ready to have a bady but only agreed because i wanted it for a long time but when i told him about this news he was actully very pleased to know.
I hope the same for you.
Good Luck!
2006-12-22 13:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by sabse-sundar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel the same way about children? If you both don't want the child than I highly suggest adoption because there are couples out there who would give anything for one. But if you want one and are happy about it, I don't know exactly what to say because this sort of thing should've been disgussed before marriage. I think you should tell him, making it obvious that you are happy about it and are hoping he will be too... I mean, you both did the "deed", he should've expected this at one point or another in your lives.
Go0d luck! I hope everything turn out great for you two ...and if you are excited about the pregnancy, congrats! :o)
2006-12-22 13:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seeing as christmas is coming up you should wrap the test with a few baby things and give it to him for christmas. he will be more suprised then anything and you wont have to worry. most men say they dont want kids because they are scared of their parenting skill and the affects it has on our bodies. Dont worry about it, it will all work out
2006-12-22 13:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, and be prepared for an intense discussion.
Keep in mind that his desire not to have children is just as valid as anybody else's desire to have children- if you treat him like he's being silly or like he's got no choice, he will feel very betrayed and there will probably be no way to repair the damage done.
2006-12-22 12:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he helped to make the baby, you are married, and if he absolutely didn't want children, he should have taken the proper steps to ensure he didn't have any. Since you are now pregnant, you need to tell him as soon as possible. He needs to know. Hopefully, he will be understanding and supportive, and maybe even excited. You might be suprised at his response....but you need to tell him point blank and right away. Good luck to ya!
2006-12-22 12:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just sit him down and tell him... you can't hide it for long. I don't know the reasons for him not wanting kids but he should mellow in time. Keep feeding him with all the positive aspects of having kids .. the fullfillment & joys it will bring you both.
2006-12-22 12:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by K C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he better decide that a kid is just fine, because you are pregnant, and he can't really do anything about it.
He married you, and that's ''through thick & thin", so just tell him. Don't be scared, because his reaction could be different than you think.
2006-12-22 12:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he'll probably change his mind. i don't see how he could be mad or surprised seeing as how you're married. why would you be scared? He doesn't want kids at all? If you're going to be married and have sex, then you run the "risk" of having children. Congrats!
2006-12-22 12:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by 4 Shades of Blue 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok dont hide the fact as you and him have some serious decisons to make right now, he need to know the child is partly his as well, wait till after his dinner and tell him or wiat till after xmas if you want to, you will need to talk to him about it and see where you guys want to go from there
2006-12-22 12:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by pen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋