I am a young mother (22 yrs old) I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 16 month old. I am the 2nd oldest of 6 kids in my family. Mother divored my dad about 4 yrs ago (right after I married and moved out) She has three remaining kids living in the house ages 10, 12, and 15. I am CONSTANTLY taking care of them. I have at least one of the minimum EVERY WEEKEND. I usually have all three of them 1 weekend a month (father is not involved) I also take care of them whenever they are out of school on holidays including summer. I do this out of the kindness of my heart because I know it took alot of courage for her to divorce my abusive father and raise these kids alone. I only ask for help by her with my kids rarely. (Like once a year) I just asked her tonight if she would be willing to take my 2 kids over night (at HER CONVIENCE) so that I could plan a special night for me and my husband sometime in the next month. She said she's to busy/tired. I find this very hurtful after all I do to help
2006-12-22 12:35:43 · 5 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't just hire a babysitter either because I am so broke from feeding, etc... all her kids. I don't want to refuse to help her with them because that will just hurt my brothers and sisters whom I love dearly. God I need a break though, even from my kids. I'm getting burned out!!!
2006-12-22 12:37:10 · update #1
you have every right to feel the way you do you have your own children and life to take care of and she wants to dump your siblings on top of that so she can get out of taking care of them. she needs to get her priorities in order and you should tell her how you feel about the situation.
2006-12-22 12:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by chrfou18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I don't have kids, I feel for you. You need to talk to your mother about it because her divorce doesn't mean that you have to help out around in the household. You already have a new family life, and you're willing to share it with your siblings. It's possible that your mother has been "unravelled" or overwhelmed and she needs to get everything together. It takes time to make changes, and I'm pretty sure she appreciates your help a lot. Do not let it overwhelm you, though. Talk to her about it and try to help her to find balance with her schedule.
2006-12-22 12:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very hurt also.
But I hate to say it but some time life is very hard to deal with. And it never seems to fair. You never know maybe she will think about it and have a change of heart.
You could even try and have your brothers and sisters help her. Talk to them and see what they say and then try and talk to your mom again.
If not maybe you could try and have a friend that has kids do a trade night.. you have there's then they have yours. No one has to pay any one. win win for all.
2006-12-22 12:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL there are no other answers, chances are she doesn't notice this strain she is putting on you and thinks you don't mind. TELL HER
2006-12-22 12:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rick J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask one of your responisble siblings to help you out...
2006-12-24 21:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋