Just wanna have your ideas on the things you have in mind considering you'll be spending this Christmas alone. My family
is too too far away from me, and my friends? they're spending Christmas together, I can mix with them, but you know. it will
just tears me inside.
2006-12-22 12:09:58 · 12 answers · asked by JUSS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Spending Christmas alone: I have done this for years, and I feel like I am in good company. It does hurt that my blood family ignores me and doesn't seem to even recognize my existence, but I prepare as well as I can for the day and a half of "shut down". What works the best for me is to make it as "normal" a day as possible. Getting into Christmas songs and stories on TV just makes me sad for what I once had and lost.
Here are a few things I have done Christmas-es past and then this year:
I found a group of disadvantaged kids that were having a big party thrown for them, and I did face-painting with them.
I drove my cat to an animal rescue group, where the caretaker was herself alone for the holiday, and while my cat hung out in the car (he liked the ride),I went in and gave her a hand.
Although not Catholic, a co-worker invited me to go to church with her, and I did so for the experience. I would consider exploring another church, both for the sense of community and for the experience. Churches are definitely open on Christmas Day. Also check out your local Jewish Community Center. Ours holds activities all day long: "When the world shuts down", the Jewish Community Center opens its doors.
I went to an Alkathon meeting one year. Although not suffering from alcoholism myself, I have been to other 12-step meetings, and here were a group of people who really understand the stresses of being alone for the holidays. (An Alkathon is usually held in a church basement where you gather for food and community, usually available 24/7 for Christmas Eve and Day.)
I took a really really long hike and communed with nature.
This year I put out an ad that I was looking for a holiday student assistant who could help me with my small self-employment business (did that through craigslist.org). I did get one response (cross fingers) and hope that I can just make it a normal business day, to take the stress off other days ahead. I also do have the opportunity late Christmas night to go to a Chinese restaurant (Chinese restaurants stay open Christmas Day), complete with piano bar, to celebrate with my best friend. It may or may not happen, because he is with family, and sometimes can't break away, but something to at least look forward to....if not that night, then another.
Last but not least, there is a wonderful new movie just opening on Christmas Day: Dreamgirls. It should be bright and uplifting, just what I need when I'm alone. Have also considered going to that and being in the company of other moviegoers.
2006-12-23 19:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jan2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your time to help other people at a local center because they need help and company as well. There are a lot of homeless people spending Christmas and trying to stay alive. Consider yourself lucky because you are sheltered and you have money to watch a movie and have a drink. Last week I saw a benevolent man giving a $20 bill to the homeless in S.F. Can't say that I was very impressed.
2006-12-22 13:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a homeless shelter, an urban mission, a YWCA, or something similar nearby have you thought of volunteering some of your time there? I couldn't even begin to describe the warm feelings I had after helping out at my local Salvation Army. Of course you have your "scrooges" everywhere, but the majority of the folks there are so thankful for a warm meal & a friendly face. Knowing that you could help in some small way might take away some of those sad, lonely feelings. Hope this helps.
2006-12-22 12:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by ladyparrotluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah me and my 6 yr old are alone this christmas, since daddy is deployed (military) again 2nd christmas he is gone ;-;. Why don't you watch some christmas movies, and have a relaxing bubble bath (that always makes me feel better lol) have some christmas dinner. Or you always could volunteer. I'm sorry you'll be spending christmas alone. Merry christmas to you!!!
2006-12-22 18:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by sarah s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
volunteer your time to help sby needy!!!you'll see that spending christmas alone is the least of worries to some people who are hungry!!!or help out at an animal shelter there are some needy creatures who need our help!!!
merry christmas from me!!!![see you're not alone any more]
2006-12-22 12:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww honey that's so sad.
Hang out with friends. No one should spend Christmas alone!
2006-12-22 12:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to catch up on the things you have put off or treat yourself to a relaxing bubble bath.
2006-12-22 12:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that on numerous occasions.at all costs
please spend christmas day with friends,i know how bad
you will feel if you don't
2006-12-22 12:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join me.OK seriously go volunteer at a homeless shelter.help feed people or whatever activity is going on there.
2006-12-22 12:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ben S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a home-less shelter, volunteer your time to pass out meals.
2006-12-22 12:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋