My partner and i are on the rocks because of my foster family he thinks i dont love him but i do with all my heart, He asked why i dont stick up for him when my foster family call's him and i dient know what to say he keeps telling me that they are not my familiy so i should walk away because they keep hurting me but i cant i love them he dosent understand this what can i do to make him know i love him and it isent his fault i am deppressed it's there's? He thinks i am not happy with him but i am its them i am not happy with he hasent done anything wrong but dosent belive me when i tell him it isent him help please
2006-12-22 11:57:34 · 11 answers · asked by panga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have a little boy together and he is adourable we love him and i dont want him to get hurt but i know he can feel i am low
2006-12-22 11:58:55 · update #1
i have told him how i feel it's just the **** they have put me through the past couple of months is horrible and he dosent want to see me get hurt be them again
2006-12-22 12:02:32 · update #2
i was voulantry fosterd so she dident get any money and i do feel sorry for her if i could give her money then i would but i only work 20 hours a week so it covers my rent
2006-12-22 12:05:06 · update #3
He needs to respect that you love this family and consider them your family. If he can't respect that, he does not respect you, and you can do better.
2006-12-22 12:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Panga, Your foster family IS your family if they love and care for you. This doesn't mean they always do what you WANT them to do. They may not always go about it the "right" way, but they are trying to keep you from getting hurt and doing things that will bring you sorrow and pain for the rest of your life.
The reason they may not like your boyfriend/partner is because he asked of you what he shouldn't have asked if he was not your husband, and now you have a child to rear though you are still a child yourself. They know how much you will miss out by having a child to take care of, and worry for both you and your little one.
If your boyfriend REALLY loves you, he will do WHATEVER it takes to make you happy and to do what is RIGHT for YOU!!!
You are depressed because you are stuck between your family (please don't walk away from them) not liking him, and him not liking them. You're depressed because you DO care.
If you really care for your boyfriend (think and consider this question really hard before you say yes), ask your foster parents what it is he could do in order for them to like him better. If they give you an answer, let him know what they said, and if he really cares for you he will try.
You could also pray about it. God IS there. He wants what is good and right for you. Ask Him to help you know He is there and to help you make the right decisions. I'll pray for you.
2006-12-22 12:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Savvy411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in foster care for ten years and I actually dated someone who tried to make me choose between him and my foster family with much the same argument. I chose my family. I did not have a child with him though, so that makes your decision that much tougher. I would suggest trying to explain to him that he is just causing you more stress rather than helping. Perhaps he has not realized how much his comments bother you.
2006-12-25 23:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you in your present situation. Your partner needs to understand that it is not right to ask you to choose between him and the family which you love. You cannot argue for him when all you want is peace instead of strife. Now I believe in God so my answer would be to pray to Him for peace and understanding to resolve the situation. But you may not. So even if you don't believe in God I would say please just try a prayer because they always get answered.
2006-12-22 12:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop trying to please everyone and start thinking of YOU. dont allow yourself to be pulled back and forth by them, let them both know how this effecting you and that they need to put their diffrences aside and enjoy the christmas season. just remember what your priorities are and that the truth isnt alway 'pleasant'. make your desision on what you think you should do and stick by it. good luck hun.
2006-12-22 12:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jaimee1987 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must accept ur feelings for this family .
he cant take control over ur feelings .
its so bad that people try to prove us whats good or not , i am sorry but u should be more strong in this matter .
2006-12-22 19:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by athina68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, sit him down explain your fears and your hopes and explain you want your family involved, if nothing else works it looks like it is time to take a break from each other!!
2006-12-22 12:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should use more periods in your paragraphs. Nobody loves a run on paragraph after all!
2006-12-22 12:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by bugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. things will work out for you
2006-12-22 12:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you tell him whats on your mind
2006-12-22 12:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by channel 15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋