this girl IMed me and cussed me out and i sussed her back out and my cuz IMed her and she sent her the archive and she only was dissapointed in me cuss i shouldnt be cussind and she started lectureing me and i am 6 yrs younger than her and i told her to stop and told her she wqas fake and told her that she was a terrible friend when ya need one and whenever i try to talk to her and tell her whats on my mind she lectures me about how i shouldnt be thinking about it or i shouldnt talk like this or some crap and it is buggin the heck outta me should i leave her and tell her not to talk to me or should i tell her soryy or ? i am confused can anyone help me to do the right thing and did i do the right thing b4?
2006-12-22 11:40:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
please no lectures about what i did like young lady shouldnt........ because i heard it i need advice about the future so i wont mess up and so i dont mess up more
2006-12-22 12:04:42 · update #1
I think you said what you said out of anger. You want your friend and yourself to feel the same way about everything, but it's impossible b/c you're two different people. IF you don't like her opinions, don't ask her. And if you do tell her before she starts lecturing, that nothing she says is gonna make you change your mind. Anyway, you were wrong to a certain extent because you aimed at her character when that's just they way she is, just like you're the way you are. Apologize and try to tell her how her lecturing makes you feel, b/c you don't want to loose an true friend.
2006-12-22 11:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, as gently as I can say it, a young lady should never "cuss someone out". Generally, people cuss at others when they are angry and don't know how best to express their anger. If someone cusses you out, WAIT. Think about what you REALLY want to get across. Write it out on paper and look it over to see if you said what you really mean. You don't have to be mean, just honest.
Your "cuz" cares about you and wants to see you turn out to be the most awesome person you can be. She understands your anger, but wants you to be able to handle it better. As she said, she is disappointed in you for cussing because she cares for you. She doesn't hate you or dislike you, or she wouldn't spend the time, or take the chance that you'll dislike her, by telling you. I would say, yes, apologize to her. That is the right thing to do. When you feel she is "lecturing" you, just think of it as "love-turing" you!
Blessings!
2006-12-22 19:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Savvy411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to calm down and work on your temper. It seems as though you act without thinking. You can not go around talking to people any kinda way and expect a positive reaction. You should practice thinking before you speak, calm down and stop over reacting to the point you have to apologize all the time for things you did not mean to say. Ole girl is hard on you because she expects more from you and wants the best for you as you should want for yourself. Now say you're sorry and go shopping tomorrow!
2006-12-22 19:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have never cussed you out. If you don't want to continue being her friend then you don't have to. It would be nice if you were more mature then her and said i am sorry for cussing(enough said). Then try to think about something else. Let people know you have thoughts and feeling no matter what age you are!
2006-12-22 19:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she always lectures you and it bugs you a lot then leave her and just try to not talk to her any more. Tell her you are too busy to talk and then leave. She does not sound like a friend.
2006-12-22 19:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has to make decisiions and sometimes the ones we make don't seem like the right ones. Ask yourself is it worth the mental energy. Is this going to affect my life tomorrow. I say let it go and have a brew or something.
2006-12-22 19:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say sorry and move on . she is 6 years older than you
2006-12-22 19:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin sounds annoying, dump her.
2006-12-22 19:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ignore her and work on your spelling. :-))) Happy Holidays!
2006-12-22 19:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF?????? i got lost 1/4 way through
2006-12-22 19:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋