marriage???

Question

how come a relationship is is great? but once you get married everything changes? FOR THE WORSE.

Answer 1

because you will accept things in a bf or gf that you will not in a wife or husband.. the man staying out drinking the woman wearing the sexy clothes that you first found attracted you to her etc etc

Answer 2

most people in a relationship make an effort to keep it alive so the other person won't walk out. When people get married they often stop making the effort as "they are married and she/he has to stay". It's called "taking them for granted". But now days he/she doesn't have to stay and it is foolish to stop working at any relationship especially a marriage.
A marriage must be worked all the time. It is not easy thing. I know, I have been married for 34 years.
Children to it to parents too, take them for granted that is. Lots of people do it and it causes much pain.

Answer 3

Think I have heard this before. It is because the Honeymoon is over and all the excitement of getting married has faded off into the sunset. Now that it has soaked in, the marriage thing. It turns out that it was'nt all as good and hot a idea as it was when you thought you wanted to and could spend the rest of your life together. In other words, time to settle down and each does not want to do that yet.

Answer 4

it doesn't just change without a reason and the common reason is that both of you now treat the relationship differently. you and your spouse will need to work at abandoning the attitudes and actions that are causing the negative change and although you may be able to do this on your own it is often helpful to get help from outside of the relationship whether from a counselor or another couple that has been down this path and are willing to mentor you. marriage can be great! now go talk to your spouse and get working at making yours one of the great ones

Answer 5

That's only because people expect the relationship to change. It doesn't have to. You just have to work out a system of living together so you don't fight over chores and stuff.
My husband and I already had commited our lives to each other so it honestly didn't change our relationship. I mean we've had hard times, but if you keep the relationship you had before you can get through anything.

Answer 6

Usually, it's because people aren't themselves before marriage. They put on a show, because they're afraid to lose that other person. But when they are married, the show's over.

My relationship was wonderful, we got married. Our marriage is just as wonderful as our relationship was, previously. Nothing has changed, and it's great.

You shouldn't be anyone but yourself.

Answer 7

It doesn't always change.Perhaps I've been lucky,because my husband is the same now,as he was when we met.I wouldn't change him for the world.
Marriage does change a lot of people though,and it's that slip of paper called a Marriage Certificate.
Husbands / Wives tend to see the real side of their partner once their married,and they don't like what it is they see.

Answer 8

your a pessimist.
have you actually been married?
Ive been with my husband for 6 years and married to him for 3 and our relationship didn't get worse at all it just gets better and i wouldn't swap my marriage for the world.
all it does is confirms that you are now a committed couple and quite frankly maybe that scares the sh+t out of you hence why yours failed.
so don't tar all marriages with the same brush just because you fukced yours up mate.

Answer 9

That was not my experience. Sorry, if this is how it worked for you. I think sometimes people get married and do not bother to ask the serious important questions before hand. And this causes major issues within the relationship. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 10

'A relationship' is hormonal. A marriage is a commitment and long term.......hormones aren't.

Marriages are not easy, tomorrow they are still there, next to you and you just can't walk (run?) away. Each day is a development and a step along the path, not matter where it's leading.

Scary stuff, and after seventeen years each day I'm scared, but still in love. I guess I'm lucky!

Answer 11

In relationship you try to please each other and pretend a lot. In marriage you tend to relax and be your real self.
In marriage you have to give and take. One must try to understand that marriage is for long term relationship. A legal bind for two people. In relationship you are free to make your choice and walk out any time.