my husband came back from iraq in january and told me he was going to the NASCAR races with all his friends 10 guys....ladies and wives not allowed...when he came home after 6 days i was looking at his camera from some pics i took myself only to notice in the digital memeory that there were girls at a cook-out with their shirts lifted up bearing breasts....several different girls and places..since he has been home he has never taken me anywhere special for his birthday i took him out for a romantic dinner got him a elec razor, cologne, clothes, etc and then for my b-day a month later he got me a lousy nail kit for about 10.00. he spends all his time with his kids from his prior marriage at sports,sports and sports, we have little time together and when i mention to him what about our time...alone or going away he tells me that he doesn't have the money...which is false...i pay all the bills and he makes ok money and gives me about 800 a month to help...i feel he is selfish and cheap
2006-12-22 11:20:52 · 17 answers · asked by suzanne m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like you should be talking to him.
2006-12-22 11:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think those pictures means that he's cheating. Imagine he's out with his guy friends drinkin and doing macho guy stuff and some drunk girls lift their shirts - wouldn't it be just like a guy to take a picture. It doesn't mean that he even so much as spoke to those women. Honestly, if I were in your shoes I'd be pissed off about finding the picture and I'd do some yelling at my husband but I wouldn't assume cheating was (or is) involved based only on those pictures.
2006-12-22 11:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably, he does. Whatever it is, ladies bearing their boobs are not a right thing in his hp!
Suzanne, talk with him over dinner and wine and when he isnt in the foul mood.
Ask him if he is cheating on you, tell him that you think he doesnt give enough money too. Tell him that if there is something from you that he wants you to improve, he can tell you now. Its about communication, if you still love him a lot and want to work it out-tell him so too.
I honestly think that he is really selfish, w all the money and lousy b-day gift and the ladies. Its really up to you if you want to work out your marriage
Hugs
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2006-12-22 11:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was feeling rather bad for you until you complained about his spending time with his children. I don't have a lot of respect for people who have gotten divorced and put their kids second to a new spouse. He should spend time with his kids.
I think there is more going on here, sounds like you need to take a long hard look at yourself and the relationship. Sounds like you were upset that he did not spend as much on your bday as you did on his, what other things are you upset about? Are they all petty like bday gifts? that may lead you to whether or not he's cheating and why he took the pictures he took.....
2006-12-22 11:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something smells funny here...You should be included everywhere he goes. As for the pictures...he might have been lucky enough to stumble across a few ...how do we say...mischievous girls, on his travels. As for the $10 gift...he sure didn't hurt himself with that did he....Looks like your gonna have to sit the boy down and point these things out to him...Ya gotta speak up or it will continue. (good luck)
2006-12-22 11:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by steve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the substantial different betrayed has forgiven him the erring, then there is no different to sentence him. Rebirth to fulfil ones existence vows and responsibilities to paintings his some time past to heaven. the domicile wrecking adulteresses are reborn as scavenging stray canines. Is that no thoroughly uncomplicated.
2016-10-18 21:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, taking pictures of wild girls at parties is not technically cheating. But it does sound like he's not giving you a lot of love, so you should just move on.
2006-12-22 11:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Julian A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful and lovely man he is. One could look the world over and never find someone more lovelier than him. He should become a photographer and entertain his clients with stories about the wonderful and elite cook outs he has attended.
2006-12-22 11:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he loves you for you. maybe you should leave, and I say he's definitely cheating on you. No husband who isn't cheating would say they don't have the money to take their wives on a vacation if they knew they make enough money to support the whole household.
2006-12-22 11:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, they are usually correct. Even if he isn't cheating (which is unlikely) he is showing an incredible amount of disrespect for you. Ask him to go to marriage counseling, if he disagrees it is time to see a lawyer. (Get copies of those photos from his camera).
2006-12-22 11:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next year YOU and your GIRLS go to the races NO MEN ALLOWED. Do somthing for yourself, dont wait on him to do it.He sounds like he is void of consideratin and you cant teach him by being nice.
2006-12-22 11:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by G M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋