I'm muslim but I'm gay. I've never pray in my life, I've never drunk any alcohol and I won't drink any. I know being gay in Islam is a such a big sin, but I dunno what to do. I prefer to be gay and never think that I'm muslim.
2006-12-22 11:13:30 · 68 answers · asked by Fiz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
all the whole my family are muslim, then I was born to be gay. All of them have no idea that I'm gay. I was born to be muslim since I was born and I've found that I'm gay when I was a schoolboy (now I'm 18)
2006-12-22 11:25:04 · update #1
Just live and be happy. Allah created you and loves you no matter what, I'm sure.
2006-12-22 11:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Serene 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
It must be very hard for you. Assuming you are living in the UK then it is not illegal to be gay irrespective of your religious background. If you are living in a country where homosexuality is illegal then clearly you have a problem. I was brought up within the christian faith but because I am gay I get nothing else but abuse from so called christians - despite the fact that they are always preaching that god loves everyone - I no longer follow that faith.
You are what you are - despite what some of the idiots in this column say - so you need to decide whether you want to live a life trying to hide your true sexuality or embrace the joy of loving a man and being happy. There are groups around that can support you if you look on the net. Just type 'muslim gays' into Google and lots of links will come up.
I wish you all the best and hope that one day you will be truly happy.
2006-12-22 21:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your are asking 2 different questions here: one religious, the other civil.
Civil law answer: In the UK, being gay, and practising your gayness, is legal in the eyes of the law.
Religious answer: In Islam, BEING gay is not illegal -- because how you were born was the will of Allah.
But, PRACTISING your sexual orientation IS illegal -- in the same way that being married, and having sex outside your marriage is also illegal.
You have to choose: are you a Muslim or not?
If you ARE a Muslim, you must adhere to (a) the Holy Qur'an, and (b) the Sunna of the Prophet (peace be upon him). That means that you can have a boy friend, but your relationship can never be intimate (no kissing, no sex of any kind, no seeing or handling his body from his knees to his navel).
If you are NOT a Muslim, you can have sex whenever and with whomever you like.
But there is no "in-between". A person who goes against the Holy Qur'an and the Sunna is not a Muslim. Muslim means "they who submit to the Lord". It does not mean "they who do as they please when they get horny").
So, you have to choose. Either follow you natural desire to have a male companion and have sex with him, or be a Muslim, and confine your sexual desires to a woman you have married, even if that's not so satisfying.
It's as simple -- and as difficult -- as that.
2006-12-26 05:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Shylock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are facing one of the most difficult questions here.
Indeed you were born a Muslim,you have no choice.
But being gay,does not mean in the eyes of Allah that you are a bad person.
Nowhere in the Koran says that homosexuality is against the religion at all.
Where I live the Muslim community does not care what you are but more who you are.I have to add that I live in Holland.
In my own hometown live about 50 000 Muslims.I happen to know quit a few gay Muslims here ,that even live together with their boyfriends.
The most however are married and look for homo sex outside their marriages.I think that Allah will judge that harder.Why are they married:family pressure.Grandchildren must be created.
All you need is to move to a country that respects gay people for who they are and not for what they do in bed.
I just two days ago answered a question on here from another Muslim man.
I did not understand his question and told him he could use the Yahoo messenger and we did,
He will use it many times,because he has loads of questions.
I invite you to do the same.
All you get here is horrible advice.
Greetings Rob.xxxx
2006-12-22 13:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, being gay in Islam is illegal. I'm Muslim so I know that's illegal even there many Muslim are gay but that not means that's ok or legal and you must know you still Muslim and gay both better than you forget Islam at all and be come gay. If you read the holy Qur'an you'll fine the God speak about people were gay in many years ago and you'll find how the God punished them.
You're as your thinking so don't think you were born gay because you'll still think you're gay, but if you think you aren't gay you'll find you aren't.
You must know gay Muslim after this live I in the last day the God might punish them but at least the God forgive them and inter them in Heaven.
Finally you must learn about Islam especially the most five important which are (believe the God is only one and the prophet Mohammed is the last messenger of the God, praying, fasting, charity and pilgrimage to Mecca) all these five under some conditions
Think optimistically.
2006-12-22 13:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by fad636 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen. Law of the country comes above laws of religion. If your country says it's illegal to be gay, then it is in that country and vice versa. But then, the law is flawed. The particular clause in the religion is flawed, not the religion or the country.
I'm an Indian. It's illegal to be gay in our country because of an obsolete law passed over a century ago. But that has not stopped many gay people to fight for their rights. You are gay first and muslim second. Gayness defines you as an individual and muslim defines you in a community. If your religion is taking away your individuality, then you should change your religion.
In fact, I think there should be no religions at all because one or more of the religious laws always come in way of a person's individuality. Each person should have his/her own religion.
2006-12-22 13:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey... I was surfing in Yahoo Answer and your question just popped to my eyes. I had a relationship that last for 2 years. He was Arab and he kinda was in your situation. I think I understand how big your dilemma is... between you religion which in your case is more a way of life and you sexuality. If you reject your religion you know is not just that, your entire family could reject you, no matter how big is their love for you, that's what they were told to do and feel since they were born, I'm not saying is right or wrong, it is just the way it is... in the other hand... are you going to be unhappy and hide your true feelings forever??? This is something only you can solve... but think this... if you come out to your family there is always two possible reactions to wait... being rejected or being accepted... if you don't do it... you just have one... being unhappy.
Whatever you decide, Good luck.
P.S: By the way, there is nothing ilegal about being gay in the occidental way of thinking.
2006-12-22 12:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Cuban 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
All people of all religions fall short of perfection.
Traditional religion has made a taboo of sex for very good reasons, in that health care was not known when these religions were established, and avoiding disease and cross-infection was then a number one priority.
Try to think beyond that, and see these Muslim laws for what they were and are.
I have known many young Muslims who are gay, and it is a very real problem for them; with strong family and religious rejudices to deal with.
There are youth and young-adult counselling organisations in most local authoriuties who could put you in contact with others in the same position as yourself. A problem shared is a problem resolved to some extent, and you will find the strength to deal with it in due course.
Good luck!
2006-12-23 08:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almighty Allah is the most kind gracious,
I found a little spark of hope in you that some thing is pinching you. It's never too late, ask Allah for his forgiveness, Allah almighty will forgive all the sins except put partners of him. Only the Shirk is the biggest sin as per quran, but other all are able to be pardoned.
One of your Muslim brother.
2006-12-23 00:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ishfaq A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day, before I was atheist, I was Muslim. Im not going to sit here and ridicule Islam instead Im simply going to tell you that one of the reasons (which were a million, but thats another story) is an ayah referring to the execution of two men who "lie" together and do not repent. Its also one of the greatest sins to not pray - so its best you choose your priorities - give yourself to religion? Or be who you are?
2006-12-23 09:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Azhdeha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salam Fiz,
I would first like to tell you that you are not alone in your struggle. There is an online group for Muslims that are dealing with these issues and you can visit us at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/straightstruggle You will be able to find others that are dealing with the exact same issues that you are dealing with.
Remember that so long as you don't do any acts that are illegal then you are not sinning.
2006-12-23 23:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by Yousef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋