My husband keeps checking on me, Even if I have not done nothing wrong. I have never cheated on him an are not think of it but he does these things and makes me feel like i have done wrong.I had a sexuality guestion last time ( how do u no if your a lesbian) and he asked me about it last night.made me feel wrong.I was never guestioning my relationship, But he made feel that way.I was wondering if looking too long was lesbian. Plus my big sis said she is gay and has a husband and child. I dont no. I feel i should defend myself from wrong doing. is it wrong doing?. and yes he has been cheated on previous relationship, but not here
2006-12-22 11:06:40 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a jealous one. Very insecure and maybe feeling guilty about something HE'S done.
If you know you've done nothing wrong, you DO need to defend yourself, or he will feel it's okay to treat you this way all the time.
2006-12-22 11:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Haven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem here isn't you at all. something must have happened to your husband long before you entered into his life. looking at another woman too long isn't being a lesbian, it sounds to me like you have a great appreciation of the female body is all. i think pam anderson is beautiful, does not mean i am a lesbian. just because your sister has feelings for other women does not mean you are a lesbian. not unless you actually have sex with other women would you be considered a lesbian. you have to work a little harder at showing your husband that you love him and would never cheat on him. meaning maybe he needs his confidence built up, or making him feel special. or making sure that you are always honest with him. other than that he may need professional help, and that is not always a bad thing. but this person could dig way deeper. marriage is hard but if you really love each other it can work out. good luck
2006-12-22 11:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you feel like you have feelings for the same gender, that isn't something to bottle up. Eventually it's going to get bigger and badder until something horrible happens.
Your best bet is to end things before they explode out of proportions. The worst thing you could do is hide it.
2006-12-22 11:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kurt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has never resolved the issues of his past, and they are creeping into his relationship with you. he is insecure and wants to be on top of everything in this relationship so no one can get over on him, he maybe needs to seek some therapy so he won't have these trust issues. why blame u or hold it against u and make your life hard, because he was cheated on in his past?
2006-12-22 11:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may think that there is something there and hes concerned. you did not do anything wrong but try to keep an open mind that he just doesnt want anything bad to effect your relationship. this new idea in his head probably sits there all day, he may need reassurance from you that everything is ok and that he is the only person for you.
2006-12-22 11:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are like that. But you should do some checking on him. Often those that think you are likely to cheat on them may be cheating on you.
2006-12-22 11:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Stash O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are basically VERY insecure. They'll try to cover it up by saying, "Well, it's because I love you so much." They can't seem to understand that by acting the way they do, it can be very sufficating and could push you further from him.
2006-12-22 11:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong doing. He's just afraid that he'll
be cheated on again. I can't blame him for that.
At least you aren't cheating on him, so you shouldn't feel guilty. Remember that when he checks on you again.
2006-12-22 11:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by PrettyEyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is really strange, you shoud have gottin help long ago if your marriage is going to last, now i do not think there is a chance.
2006-12-22 11:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's been cheated on previous he probably has trust issues... now he thinks your turning lesbo on him... tell him you want to bring another girl to the bedroom w/ the 2 of you... if hes not into that he's not a real man.
2006-12-22 11:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋