On February 14th 2007 I will have been married 2 long painful (yet often sometimes good) years. My husband has a hard time dealing with my sons dad. This is because he is not my sons real dad. My sons real dad has not wanted anything to do with my son. When my son was 6 months I started dating my brothers best friend and although it didn't work out he asked me to please never take my son out of his life. He had grown very close to my son in that year. My son knows about his bio father. My son is 9 now and he is very smart. My husband believes my so is so smart that he concocks schemes to get us to fight. He says my son has evil and malicious intents. He says I always says I am sticking up for my son. This coming from a man who obeys his mothers every wish including the most recent of kicking me out of our home. I have a 1 year old with my husband too. What should I do. He has kept me from school and he sold my car a year ago. I have nothing. He has all the money. Help!
2006-12-22 10:57:19 · 14 answers · asked by { Me } 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you get a job with no car/transportation? How do you move out when he has all the money? He has kicked me out already so where do I go now. He will be back tomorrow so where do I go then? I have no family in this state and they can't afford to buy me at ticket to get home. How do you move out and move on when a man leaves you with NOTHING but the clothes on your back?
2006-12-22 11:05:33 · update #1
it must be hard for you,i married with two children now we have five altogether.he is always going to have a hard time with your sons father it is another man in not only your life but your sons.i think you should have a talk with your son see why he is upset if he is upset.he might feel like something is wroung.then see what is going on with your husband,he might feel left out men sometimes act like children.your husband shouldnt say that your son is doing it on purpose he should try and understand your son might be doing it if he is for attenion. and your husband should know you will always stick up for your son, i do too we are there moms.ask yourself if you want to be with your husband, then try and work it out or try and see what to do to make things work without him,you can make it on your own, i promise.it seems like he wants full control over you so be careful. you have alot your kids and you and the best thing you have God!
2006-12-22 11:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by appleheavenjade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not tell you to end your marriage. I can how ever say that you should look in to going to some family counseling. The guy that is in your sons life sounds like a stand up guy. But things didn't work out for what ever reasons. You need to talk to some one who can talk to the both of you and try to come up with some type of solution.
Ill pray that every thing works out for your family.
If you did go there are women shelters every place. Call your social services and get some info. It doesn't hurt to have a plane. You can have things set up to go and have some one from the shelter to come and pick you up.. there is always a way.. Just not always an easy path.
2006-12-22 11:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a cure for your problem, hon. Stuff like your story litter this site, and it always amaze me--- unplanned pregnancy, unplanned life, hoping some net will catch you when you screw up, no stash of cash,,,,, god, I read your stories and thank my mom repeatedly of the wise stuff she pumped into my head:
Don't have children until you are in a solid marriage
The most important choice you will EVER make is the man you marry
Always have a skill you can sell for a good wage to allow you to support yourself in a fashion that is lovely.
Always have a stash of cash, even if you know you will never need it.
Maybe a bit late for you, but maybe you can find a way to use it:
With having children you yourself cannot support, you are a victim of any guy. And without an education, you're working at McDonald's for peanuts.
I don't see a solution to your problem, hon, except going to a shelter, getting some training, and get yourself out of this hole that you have allowed to happen to you. Be different if you had no children.....
2006-12-22 14:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all you should have never let him walk all over you like you have done. And by law he can not through you and your children out of the home. Call the cops when he shows up, Call 911 and get their butts over to your house. Now make some calls the phone book is full of social welfare, salvation army etc.
2006-12-22 11:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely know how you feel! But there are some different ways you can handle it. If he still doesnt seem interested, then kinda sounds like a big issue. Im sorry :( but if you can go into the room while he is beatin off to his porn. Just walk in there, and watch it with him. And you take over his hand job. try to get his attention on you. In the end you will both end up getting what you want. when its time for bed, dress up, wear a sexy outfit. And you just initiate the situation. Or set up a time to use your toy, only when he can catch you do it, like let him walk in the room while you are pleasuring yourself. Just try something to get his attention back on you! Keep it exciting. i know its hard to hear but if he isnt having sex with you, most likely he is getting bored, therefore goes to porn, its different and exciting for him. But if he is still doing it with you, then dont worry about the porn thing. They all watch it. Even me sometimes.
2016-05-23 16:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more than help from Yahoo answers. You've got big problems, hon. Get professional help. You are allowing this stuff to happen. You don't deserve this bad treatment. Find a free help clinic or a therapist that cares enough to let you pay on a sliding scale based on your income.
2006-12-22 11:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Oh Wise One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, ask for custody, get child support, get a job. get the man that loves your older child back in the picture, and get on with your life. What you are living in, is not a healthy relationship, or healthy home for your children.
2006-12-22 11:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on Divorce Court and ask the judge to make your husband pay you back for the car, and give you spousal support!
DEFINITELY, get away from him! The sooner, the better!
You deserve better!
2006-12-22 11:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to a woman's shelter they will help you find a lawyer, they will help you get the help you need. don't stay with this jerk. You need to stand up for your son not your husband. make your children your priority.
2006-12-22 11:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job. Save money. Leave him. Not necessarily in that order.
2006-12-22 11:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋