My best friend is in a violent relationship with her boyfriend. He always beats her up. Of course I have tried to get her to leave him, but she isn't strong enough. Once I foolishly got involved in a fight while he and I were at her house. He went to hurt her so I pushed him and he hit me, giving me a bruised face. The trouble is, my parents asked me about it. My friend begged me not to tell them coz they know her really well and are friends with his family. She is terrified. Instead, they think it was my boyfriend that did it, which is rediculous, but because of my secretiveness and unwillingness to answer, they suspected. Now, they think he is abusing me and have stopped him coming round and are trying to forbid me from seeing him. It's not fair on him either. Do I betray my friend's trust and tell them the truth?
2006-12-22 10:36:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell the truth, abuse is a criminal offense and it needs to be known. Someday, maybe in the distant future, your friend will thank you
2006-12-22 10:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to ya friend and tell her y u have to tell ya parents but make sure that she does not think u r choosing your boy friend over her but rather that it is for her own help and that your parents will be able to help her... she may b a lil pissed off in the beginning but if she is a good friend she will realize that u did it 4 her and not 4 your self...
2006-12-22 18:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! if she chooses to stay in a violent relationship, it is her problem. tell your parents that your boyf is coming round and tell everyone together what is going on with your friend.
Betray your friend as she will not accept help. she willcome to her senses soon enough when he near enough kills her!!
I know it sounds harsh but she is looking out for herself so why don't you look out for yourself.
How selfish is she? You should have called the police as soon as you left and from now on, whenever she tells you he has hit her, call the police. Just for your own peace of mind because she won't do it.
2006-12-22 12:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you watch crime watch last night about women beaters...it was awful, they showed footage of a young girl being battered by her fella, it was horrendous, they caught him and put him in jail, but there's women out there who suffer terribly because they are letting these idiots get away with it because they are petrified....did you blame your boyfriend for bruising your face? or did your parents just assume he did it?....either way, it's not air on him to be judged like that.... that's terrible, now your parents think he's no good, you must tell them what really happened and clear your boyfriends name... this coward that beats up your friend needs to be locked up, and fast before he really hurts her...you will not be betraying your friend if you get the cops onto her abusive boyfriend, you will be doing her a favour....she needs to get away from him and she needs to do it now...i hate violence but i would not spare that piece of slime, i would have someone go round there to give him the kicking of his life, i bet he would never square up to a guy like he does with that poor girl....spineless little runt....help your friend and tell the truth to your parents, they have now started to hate your boyfriend for something he didn't do and his reputation will stink because of it, i hope he does not find out about this because there's a good chance that he'll dump you for this...tell them the truth and get your mate away from this low life scum bag....first and foremost get your friend and take her to a safe place where no one knows, the next beating could be her last.....don't let her get hurt by him any more...and yes...tell the truth...this is something that no one should keep a secret about, you wont be betraing her, you'll be helping her, do the right thing
2006-12-22 13:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. It for ur friend safety really. Abusing is against the law. Let them know the truth.
2006-12-22 18:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by ThaGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them about the bad boyfriend and clear your boyfriends name. It is not betraying her trust if you are helping her. That guy needs to go and fast. The more that know about it the less she has to worry about. He will leave then.Call the cops, file a report, get her some help and counseling. Get your boyfriend, all your friends, rallied together to help her. You will need everyone on your side.
2006-12-22 11:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by spitfin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must tell someone she needs help wether she thinks she does or not, and the sooner you get her the help the better i will be no man ever has the right to make a woman scared, if you are a true friend then get her help how would you feel if her boyfriend pushed her and she fell and banged her head and died
2006-12-22 23:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don`t let ur friend go through this. she is being physically abused and it will get worse. wot if she ends up in hospital badly beaten wen u could of done something about it. do the right thing babes. all the wrong people are getting in trouble while the abuser gets away wiv it. i`d never see a friend go through this. i`d be a friend and do the right thing
2006-12-22 21:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by groundhog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say betray your friend. initially when i saw the q i wanted to say how can u do such a wicked thing to yr friend but having read the additional infor I realized that it would be better to do this top yr friend, its' for the best you see. look if you lose your bf yr friend is always going to suffer but if you tell the truth you can stay with yr bf and yr friend might find anther guy who treats her right and the result good friends forever
2006-12-22 11:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with whichever parent you get on best with and talk to them. You owe it to your own boyfriend, who hasn't done anything wrong, no matter what your girlfriend does.
Get it sorted out. You don't have to go on and on abt your girlfriend. State the facts. Then leave it to the adults/and her own family to sort. Don't you think its time your friends family had a chance to help her? Suppose you had a daughter and she was getting beaten up...what would you feel abt a so-called "friend" who did nothing to help put a stop to it.
You can help stop this. She cannot help herself. Stop hanging about, all you have to do is tell your parents.
2006-12-22 11:10:58 · answer #11 · answered by xyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋